Love Means for A Reason..

那誰 ( 劇場版 )

2011-11-14T12:42:00.004+08:00

看着这个剧场版的MV，觉得很感触。。里面的对白，尤其到了那段“我知道，但我真的很不开心”，听得我都心痛了。。好像是自己心里的声音。。。

反复的看，看了又看，错觉让我觉得里面的男主角好像有熟悉的感觉。。崩溃于晚餐中失声痛哭的画面，让我有种很心疼的感觉。。。要想把他拥入怀抱。。我看我简直近视得厉害了，严重错觉把他当成了是ST！。。哎。。。

让你飞/张学友

2010-11-29T15:15:00.000+08:00

陳奕迅 Eason's Moving On Stage 1今日 Live

2010-11-23T11:23:00.000+08:00

抬头吧相信爱你便能飞。。。。

女人不能觸犯的三大戒條~李民杰&龙震天-

2010-04-27T14:12:00.005+08:00

最近我爱上了阅读李民杰的书。全由YS介绍的五个“好的奸人”系列开始。。上个星期在书店无意中发现了他最新的作品，用的字句依然是简单和超搞笑的。。细读书里的一个Chapter,真的获益匪浅，等不及这个星期天把它买回去细细地看！

在网路上打印了其中的一篇，觉得说的没错是很“手段”，但也无可否认那是事实....一个很好的breakthru and brain storming!

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女人不能觸犯的三大戒條

海枯石爛永生不變的感情？
很多女性客戶都問我，如何和身邊的男人維繫一生不變的感情？

在此，我必須很殘酷地和大家分享：「男女感情，其實是一場遊戲。你首先必須知道，這是一個遊戲。」

我和客戶談過這個觀點，有人對我說：「感情絕對不是一場遊戲，我是認真的！」

其實我想說：「這個方向完全錯了。」

感情絕對就是一場遊戲——你一定要認清這點，如果你的態度是認真的，那感情就是一場「認真的遊戲」。

為什麼我會以堅定的語氣說「感情是一場遊戲」呢？

客戶說：「龍大師，為什麼你要說男女感情是遊戲呢？如果是遊戲的話，每個人都不會認真對待彼此的感情了……」

有句話說「人生如棋局」，感情就是棋局對弈中的遊戲。你正在下棋，固然知道對弈是遊戲，然而並不表示你不能認真對待，遊戲也可以很認真，不過你要知道棋賽的對弈是遊戲，才不會放不開每一局棋的輸和贏。既然是遊戲，你會以「世事如棋局局新」的態度處之，這局棋你輸了，並不表示下一局你不會贏。

你若保持這樣的態度，你才能從輸掉的那一局棋中汲取經驗，否則你將「誤入歧途」，放不開每一段感情。

但是，很多人一旦聽到龍大師說「感情如遊戲」，就有負面的感覺。

其實道理很簡單，正如你讀《射雕英雄傳》，你會為洪七公被西毒歐陽鋒暗算而感到憤怒嗎？你不可能飛去中國尋找歐陽鋒，為洪七公報仇吧？

讀小說時，你可以因為故事的情節提防陰險狠毒之人，然後寫網誌說：「我們可以做大俠，但我們不可以做太過寬容的大俠，與其當洪七公，不如當韋小寶……」你一旦如此讀金庸小說，你還能進步；但你若因而昭告天下，尋找歐陽鋒報復，就未免太過天真了。前者也是認真讀小說的態度，但他會從中汲取教訓；後者也是認真讀小說，卻將小說當真，如是者，前者的態度面對感情創傷而不會受傷，後者卻會因而感嘆：「愛過方知情重，醉過方知酒濃。沒有受過創傷的人，是不懂得真正的愛……」

也許這時，你會明白為什麼李莫愁會像冤鬼般老是唱誦：「問世間情為何物，直教生死相許……」

甚至你也聽過《長恨歌》「悲詠」唐玄宗與楊貴妃可歌可泣的愛情故事：「天長地久有時盡，此恨綿綿無絕期……」

這些都是不把感情當作遊戲之人的悲歌，結果將感情變成痛苦，這都是害你自殺的毒藥！

感情三大黃金天條守則（Women 3 God Rules）

既然是遊戲，就要明白，要構成遊戲，必須符合兩個規則：

1. 遊戲，是要遵循規則玩的。
遊戲有遊戲規則，而感情，則有感情的規則，又或者可以說是「方式」，如不知道，你無法跟隨規則而行，因為不遵守規則，就是犯規。

犯規的後果是：你會被disqualified（判定不合格），到最後被踢出局，而且是由你心愛的人，用他最強而有力的腿，狠狠的朝你屁股踢下去，將你踢出球場界線之外。

2. 遊戲一定有贏家，當然也有輸家。
每個遊戲都一定有贏家，也有輸家。而大部份的感情，兩個都是輸家，因為男女雙方都不知道遊戲的規則。

感情有三大天條，女人都不可以犯。我想強調一點，這三條是「黃金天條」，現在不是問妳是否同意這三大天條，而是要妳認清、知道、了解這三大天條。

感情失敗的女孩子，全部都是花時間在研究這些天條有何不對；我想說，天條是不可以侵犯的，即使妳抱有一點懷疑也不可以，妳只能知道和遵守——這正如妳花時間去研究用耳朵看東西、用鼻子說話，用眼睛去吃東西等等，萬萬不可，也沒有這個必要。

我還以為每個女人都知道這三大黃金天條，沒想到，和朋友談及，才知道原來大部份人都不明白有這三大天條存在，這些人一旦進入了感情的遊戲，又不懂規則，妳說還有沒有機會贏呢？

答案是：贏的機會很低，輸的機會很高。

更為奇怪的是，我寫了這麼多感情網誌，有這麼多的支持者，卻還是有很多人說不出這三條黃金法則，我得出一個結論：原來我寫得不夠白（直接）。

在這裡先插入一個故事，來強化妳必須這樣做的理據：

宋朝時有一位叫趙普的宰相，是替宋太祖趙匡胤黃袍加身的功臣之一。他最出名的一句話就是「半部《論語》治天下」，事實上他真的是用半部論語來治天下嗎？

歷史上記載，趙普治理天下時，碰到很多棘手的問題，他在朝廷上並沒有答案；只見他晚上獨自走進房間，拿起《論語》來讀誦，到了第二天，任何棘手問題他都能輕鬆地迎刃而解，再難答辯的詰問，他也很寫意地對答如流，因此才有半部《論語》治天下的說法。

我們的意思是，大家都讀《論語》，為什麼唯獨他讀《論語》能治天下呢？

並不是《論語》內文有何妙方，而是趙普宰相是帶著問題專心讀誦，而引發出潛意識的力量！

現在，請妳屏息靜氣，慢慢去體會，消化這三條「感情黃金天條」。

Rule Number 1：Do not create troubles.（別製造麻煩。）

女人天性就是很煩。

可能女人自己不覺得，但有時候我又會聽到Ａ女人說Ｂ女人道：「她真的很煩！」（龍嫂也說過同樣的話）

其實妳無須感到奇怪，上帝造人，男人和女人就是有所不同。身為女人的妳，我教妳一個很有用的法則，使自己改善感情運，就是：

先承認自己很煩，然後盡一切能力，令自己不煩。

女人啊！女人，我明白要妳做到這點其實是很困難的。

正如貓喜歡吃魚，卻要這隻可愛的貓承認自己很愛吃魚，而且又不能吃魚，在邏輯上完全違反了。

但，若妳能夠違反固定軌跡而行，就如「少數人操控著大部份人的財富」一樣，妳就是贏家。

煩未必是不好，但煩就會令妳感情運下降，這是一個事實。最要命的就是，如果這些麻煩是因妳而起的話，我會說：「妳的處境很危險。」

男人變心，不是一朝一夕的事情。同樣道理，當妳自己產生一些麻煩的事情時，雖然並不會因為某一件事情而導致男人分手，但就如癌症一樣，日積月累，到最後只有三個字：「沒得救。」

Rule Number 2：Do not make your other half uncomfortable.（不要讓妳的另一半不舒服。）

這條黃金定律，當中涉及的哲理太過複雜，意思簡單，但背後所帶出的意義實在太有深度了。

為什麼會這樣複雜？因為這和男人的黃金法則，持有相反的態度。

男人的黃金法則就是：「未到八十歲，也不要給身邊的女人飽飯吃。」

這句話，相信很多人都聽過，卻沒有多少人做得到，男女之間其實是剛巧相反的。

我見過很多富豪，他們很有錢，有很多不同的女人，但他們的行為，卻巧合得可怕，就是：

永遠不會將自己的財富集中放在一個女人身上。

我看過某些很有計謀的女人，她們很會耍媚功，只要她們認清目標，就會毫不留情的狠狠劈下去。

她們用的不是刀，而是非常聰明的心理戰。她們盯上男人，每次逛街會一次又一次的買東西，到最後，當男人無力再買任何東西給她時，此男人就得接受一個殘酷的事實——此女人會漸漸疏遠他——而他永遠也不知道自己「失敗」的真正原因。

而女人則剛好相反，永遠要使自己身邊的男人舒舒服服，妳就能夠綁住妳的男人。

怎樣綁？

我會再教大家一些sub rules（潛規則），很有用的，請妳繼續讀下去。

Rules Number 3：You must make your other half could not live without you.（必須使妳的另一半不能沒有妳。）

就如捕捉蝴蝶一樣，我給妳五分鐘時間，如何能在五分鐘內捕捉最多的蝴蝶？我相信大部份人都會思考，怎樣做一個又大又細密的網，怎樣練得一身反應快的好身手，好捕捉最多蝴蝶。

其實，想要最有效地捕捉蝴蝶，不是用網子，而是用花蜜去吸引。有了花蜜，到時候就會吸引大量蝴蝶飛來。

道理簡單，卻還真的沒有多少人能夠明白。

女人若整天檢查對方的電郵、手機簡訊，是在做幼稚園生做的事情。

有些女人更笨，在街上看到自己朋友的男朋友和別的女子牽著手逛街，便迫不及待第一時間去告狀。

對於這些女孩子，我真的想駡她們人頭豬腦。以為幫人，其實是害人。

這個命題的邏輯就是：無論結果怎樣，妳的女性朋友都不會感謝妳，甚至不會因為這件事情而請妳吃飯——在博弈上，出發點完全錯誤。

這件事情，只會產生兩種結果：

一、女性朋友因此和她男友鬧翻，分手收場。

二、女性朋友和男友吵架，最後繼續在一起，但心裡有一根刺。

無論是哪種結果，這個女子都不會感謝來告狀的女性朋友，請她吃飯。

我常說，多餘的事情就不要做，告狀這件事，就是多餘的事情。

我在一生之中，曾三次看過自己的朋友（男性或女性）在街上牽著另一個人的手，我即使看到，也必定假裝看不到。

人家的事，關妳什麼事？妳說了，對妳自己有何益處？對妳自己的朋友有何益處？

無論對方分手或不分手，對方也必然不會感謝妳。

我看過最高招的是：女性朋友知道她男朋友外面有另一個女人，故意不說，不發脾氣，若無其事，而她的行為也完全遵守這三條黃金法則。

最後，男人也是有知覺的。他和這個女人交往過一段時間之後，就會比較：「到底哪個比較好？」

最後，他選擇和第三者分手。

妳要綁住妳身邊的男人，就必須令他不能沒有妳。當妳外貌、身材、性格、行為、談吐、思維都比別人好，男人自然不會走。

還是那句：「這是很簡單的道理，但大部份女人都不明白。」

可能妳會說：「我怎麼能夠忍受我的老公在外面有女人呀！我絕對無法忍受！」

請不要動氣，也不用說不同意，請妳看回我最初所說的：

感情是一場遊戲，而遊戲也一定有其規則。規則是不用妳同意的，無論妳同意或不同意，都要照著規則而行；妳不遵循規則玩這個遊戲，就會輸。

好好看看這三條規則，我強烈建議妳將它們背下來，要背得滾瓜爛熟；然後空閒時，在自己的腦海中思考一下。

久而久之，妳會發覺，很奧妙地，妳的潛意識會改變，行為也會改變；更重要的，是妳會發覺自己的男人，和妳的距離越來越近。

在這三條黃金法則的背後，是有很多潛規則的

Lembu is back!

2010-03-24T14:30:00.003+08:00

Surprisingly Lembu meeting us for lunch today! Immediately I called uncle and walk across the road to buy lottery..hahaha!!

After refuse to answer our calls for few times, we have given up on keeping touch with Lembu. Sekali, he turn his head up to us.

Lembu have changed his character from always loud in words to low profile now. Not mention at all about his new job, thats not like the Lembu we knew....

His new office is just arround BAB office, he said, if he choose not to go to the lunch area, he will not need to bump into anyone of them..sound like he still have not let go on what have happened...

Sotong's secret gf

2010-03-16T12:47:00.003+08:00

Sotong was hospitalised due to heart virus infection! Have a short chat with him yesterday, he seems started to get emotional already after "jail" in the Hospital for no internet, no tv access for 3 days.

This sotong somehow or rather always created alot of mistery about his gf. Was asking Jasmine this morning, that Sotong telling abit but not tell abit about whats happening to him and his gf..Jasmine was saying sotong do not want me to know about it...I am abit blur..why ar? He was telling me that his gf went MIA..and all this thanks to HAISPL. What is he talking about? The relationship just started about half yr ago leh... I cant help to imagine the relationship that he been having is kind of Part time lover.. (Very pat lah me...)

Well, if he has declared his relationship and meeting the gang, what so secrety leh?..(which it cannot be parttime lover already, rite?)

Thats created question mark to me?

Anyway, not going to borther about the emotional sotong..as usual, when he is back to "normal" he will turn up by himself.

p/s: the only great things BAB given me thru the year is this gang of friendship. Although we have lost lembu, and losing Dan soon....

2010-03-16T12:43:00.001+08:00

当所有如果都没有如果，只有失去的温柔最永久。。。。

Marble Leaves

2010-02-19T10:56:00.005+08:00

Finally moved into the new house before CNY! Rushing terribly..

Those marble leaves brought home by Wayne from Sweeden, although more than a year ago, still look good..

A few pieces of dry leaves and I am keeping it as such a treasure...The leaves captured the unforgetable memories...

It will be forever looking nice...the leaves, the memories..

Counting days....

2010-02-19T10:50:00.002+08:00

Counting days everymorning...Damn sian without you guys arround.. More over that laptop kena stolen, gotto use my personal laptop to work till my last day in next week. No emails access, no SAP, no printing..wahlao, really bore leh...

Gotto tahan for another 4 more days...

Sotong was chatting with me yesterday. He received the offer for a job in an engineering firm. One year contract, work at Pasir Gudang, great pay SGD13K..however, he is still awaiting for the offer from the project in Qatar.

Glad that I am leaving, no more fun working anymore, no more great lunch! Poor Dan & Ah lui still gotto be staying in this lonely atmosphere.

No more Lembu....

2010-01-12T16:30:00.004+08:00

I was so busy last whole week running every where for my new house renovation. When Lembu sms me informed about his last day and asking for lunch, i dont even have time to meet him.

So lucky of Lembu, 5 months + a job in Australia is 100 times better compensation to him for leaving the company...Lembu must be having fun with the wife in holiday now...hmh...5 months $$ can have a great great holiday!

Must ask Lembu to buy us the hairy crab meal!!

Poor MCA gang now left 3 members going for Babui alone...missing the 2 chinaman uncle..

Finally Daniel are back to home! Without the gang, surprisingly both me and Ah Lui learnt to love each other more...no more quarreling...:(

Oh yeah, Sotong confirmed not coming to KL...again, using his mother as the excuse..lousy excuse..the real reason he told me was...he is eyeing to buy a house in Singapore and wish not leave the gf far too....

Drama on the air...

2009-12-22T13:44:00.003+08:00

John's appear again! Yesterday Yuki was chatting with LC and mentioned that John has decided will not want to see me and Jayson in the rest of his life...Can't really understand what type of person that can be avoiding the fact till such extent.

It came to such extreme for John to say his words..I will say, as long as we are still alive, nothing will be definate.. "What we resist will persist"..its really make me curious and wonder will this happened to John later.

Somehow, the type of resistance from John is kind of abnormal. We both have did nothing to him thru this years...Can imagine what type of guiltiness John been facing and brought to his type of reaction.

We been living without him all the years, with or without him will not cause any change to us. Actually kind of surprise that Yuki are willing to bring out the topic again and talk about it. This really make John look more silly and useless.

For whatever reason, thru the chat with Yuki, she seems not that "crude" as been told. Kind of respect her on her mature and braveness. Can't really tell I have such courage like her if I were put into her shoes.

Somehow, abit confuse what is going on...
1st, John added me in FB
2ndly, John deleted me in FB
3rdly, John's mum wrote me a letter
4th, John's wife-Yuki added me in FB
5th, Chat with Yuki about Jayson
6th, Yuki was asked by John disconnect contact with us.

Those ppl are kind of Drama , don't you feel?

Ah Lui's Birthday!

2009-12-22T13:38:00.003+08:00

To day is Lui Moon's birthday! Going to ask him to buy me meal! What a waste the gang is no longer together! Will bee asking Lui Moon to go Seremban to buy you farewell meal since he been saying he hasn't buy you farewell!!

BTW, i am going to Singapore next week for interview...good if get it, i can leave immediately, peacefully, quietly...Bad if get it, need to change all my plan for Bui Bui and house!

Lembu

2009-12-21T11:36:00.004+08:00

Yap min said:

Lembu called me. Tomboy took the laptop and blackberry from him before leaving office.He is hoping the Company can pay him to go - 3 mths!!! I told him I am not going back anymore. He was very happy - got compnay mah! Blur lady also called earlier. Told me about the laptop/blackberry incident, Told Blur lady - will see u when I see u... Stupid lady don not get what he meant.Everything has fallen apart - exactly like what I anticipated. The next on the list will be Blur Lady. Don now how long she can tahan.When is Sotong coming? Suggest we don't leak out too much to him at the moment,since he will be joining the mad house. Otherwise he may quote our namesunnecessary. What say you? Cheers

Jane said:

OMG! How can they do that?!! Its too much! and obviously they are asking lembu not to come back from leave! Sotong still in singapore, not arriving yet but sound very frustrated...

Can't help to feel sorry to lembu, this Tomboy are really really too much! no wonder she is famous in OG!

Lembu called me last thursday nite as well, 1st time he called...I think at that time he just got the news by late 8pm only...hmh...he said his dream comes true...hahaha...what a bad dream come true, choi!

Well, its good for Lembu taking a break and hopefully he learnt from the inccident.

Btw, Lembu said he already "jalan" else where...which I am abit doubt...

PS: No worry, definately won't leak out information to Sotong...Sotong thought he can still taking advantage from me to be his spy...kekeke...he thought i am really lembu...hahaha

BABolih!!

2009-12-17T09:50:00.005+08:00

Finally, the BAB MCA Lunch Association proudly annouced to be "temporary suspended" till further notice....

After you left, we never go out for lunch...as Stone Head is not "ngam" with Xiao Qi Gui..Stone head is happening now in his department...Singapore Sotong called me yesterday said that both the Shorty and Salted Fish Head spoken to him and wanted him to relocate to KL temporary to back up Shorty's Mah Zai and Stone head...

This morning bumped into the shorty and she is so so so "actsy" leh....i realised she always showing me her "actsiness" and only showing the "friendly" to her small little group's punya mah zai...I guess this is wat we call the "strategy"..she needs their support...

The whole dept now are like in wall...document "sleeping" nicely on the floor everywhere...everyone is in stress with overloaded work except.....the little slow motion snail....you know who...hahaha...she is always in calm and remain her slow motion no matter wat happened...

Looking forward Singapore Sotong coming to KL...hahaha...will be another show on air soon...

Finally she makes it!

2009-10-19T14:24:00.004+08:00

Went to Sharon's wedding dinner last nite..A grand and adorable wedding...so touching! finally she make it! finally after all the sad stories, she found her home and found her man-KK who are loving her very much, giving her everything in the world. She deserve it, after went thru the tough journey all those years..finally she make it!

As one of her friend seeing her growing all this years, feel glad and touching seeing her having her happiness and all love from her man & family. Seeing AW brought her family back together, seeing her inlove parent, feel so great of it...still remember the hard time many years back where she really got what she has now from zero..

Something I feel proud of her..as her friend.

P.S: met my previous company colleagues and bosses after all those years lost in contact, brought back alot of memories.. :)

沒有人分享是一種懲罰

2009-10-16T11:16:00.000+08:00

有一位猶太教的長老，酷愛打高爾夫球。

在一個安息日，他覺得手癢，很想去揮桿，但猶太教規定，信徒在安息日必須休息，甚麼事都不能做。

這位長老卻終於忍不住，決定偷偷去高爾夫球場，想著打九個洞就好了。

由於安息日猶太教徒都不會出門，球場上一個人也沒有，因此長老覺得不會有人知道他違反規定。

然而，當長老在打第二洞時，卻被天使發現了，天使到上帝面前告狀，說某某長老不守教義，居然在安息日出門打高爾夫球。

上帝聽了，就跟天使說，會好好懲罰這個長老。

第三個洞開始，長老打出超完美的成績，幾乎都是一桿進洞。

長老興奮莫名，到打第七個洞時，天使又跑去找上帝：「上帝呀，你不是要懲罰長老嗎？為何還不見有懲罰？」

上帝說：「我已經在懲罰他了。」

但直到打完第九個洞，長老都是一桿進洞。

因為打得太神乎其技了，於是長老決定再打九個洞。

天使又去找上帝了：「到底懲罰在那裡？」上帝只是笑而不答。

打完十八洞，成績比任何一位世界級的高爾夫球手都優秀，把長老樂壞了。

天使很疑惑地問上帝：「這就是你對長老的懲罰嗎？」

上帝說：「正是！」「你想想，他有這麼驚人的成績及興奮的心情，卻不能跟任何人說，這不是最好的懲罰嗎？」

生活需要伴侶，快樂和痛苦都要有人分享。

沒有人分享的人生，無論面對的是快樂還是痛苦，都是一種懲罰。

2009-10-14T09:49:00.000+08:00

I tend to have the struggle of torturing myself when something doesn’t work out. …The pain is beating myself with something beyond my control.. I cant chance your thought, I cant control and hold you for shifting away to others, I cant make you to stay the same, I cant let go all my frustration to you…I just cant do anything to make you react as what I want…

I can only choose to be ignorant….

Weekend Baking with Jayson@ home

2009-09-29T08:54:00.013+08:00

Didn't actually realise that my boy have growth up big boy and started showing his interest and curiousity. He wants to try everything and get involve on what we are doing, make me realised that I just gotto let him get involve,try and experience it instant of telling him not to do...thats the reason we have the baking weekend together, making Pau, baking butter cake & cooking wanton soup together...he is cute with getting the flour on his face and body, putting his hardwork in making his "roti canai"...

We went SS2 hawker centre doing the "Lok Lok" stuff together on saturday nite, Steamboat with LC & bf for dinner on sunday nite, having baking session on sunday noon...all this are something new to Jayson!Such a joyful weekend.

Looking forward for the coming weekend on the mooncake festival to create some different experience together with him!

人生苦海

2009-09-28T14:02:00.002+08:00

人生苦海？。。。。能离爱就不生苦，离欲就不生恼。。能有爱是福，也会是苦，要有苦才能体会甜，所谓苦尽甘来。

这就是人生的意义，也是活着的精彩。。

2009-09-24T19:58:00.002+08:00

那天﹐與LC在算塔羅牌命宮﹐你和我都是屬於女祭司宿命。蠻相似的。所謂女祭司的特征乃是一個平靜﹐沉默而莊嚴的人。智慧與直覺是她的專情﹐有清晰的觀察力﹐傾聽內心的聲音增長智慧。。但是也善於壓抑情感上的波動。。哇﹐那好像你耶﹗

也不是特別的迷信﹐有時心血來潮時﹐心里又有些問號的時候﹐都會運用自己有限的塔羅牌功力占卜一下﹐好奇的想知道是否真的會發生..So far,我無法否認﹐一切都很准耶。。

昨天算了算與john yap的關係﹐既然在這麼多年以後的今天﹐有人又再次把這段過去了的關係重提。。得到的是命運之輪牌...就來看看是否會如塔羅牌的指示般﹐會在沉靜了這麼久以後再有轉變。。。

你是我的依戀

2009-09-24T19:43:00.002+08:00

那天﹐你說你現在的心境是只要明天仍然可以張開眼睛﹐又是新的一天。。。。我在想﹐如果有一天你死了﹐我一定會傷心很久很久。。。。因為可以和你活在同一個世界里﹐知道你還無恙活著。。就覺得很好了。你看﹐我對你的愛是多麼的無私。。。

有些人﹐有些回憶是值得一輩子被人懷念。。

Joke- Fishing Trip

2009-09-17T09:59:00.000+08:00

Dave and his buddies were hanging out and planning an upcoming fishing trip.

Unfortunately, he had to tell them that he couldn't go this time because his wife wouldn't let him. After a lot of teasing and name calling, Dave headed home frustrated.

The following week when Dave's buddies arrived at the lake they were shocked to see Dave. He was already sitting on the dock, fishing rod in hand, and drinking a beer.
His buddies asked, "How did you talk your missus into letting you go Dave?"

Dave replied, last night I came home and slumped down in my chair with a beer to drown my sorrows thinking how much I wanted to go fishing. Then the ol'lady snuck up behind me and covered my eyes and said, "Surprise".

When I peeled her hands back she was standing there in a beautiful see through negligee and she said, "Carry me into the bedroom and tie me to the bed and you can do whatever you want".

SO I DID AND HERE I AM

A Weirdo attracted Weirdo stories....

2009-09-15T18:11:00.002+08:00

In 2 days time, I met 3 type of people who really make me laugh…

The 1st one, like the “HINT”ing stuff. She wont ask direct question. She love to say : why like that ar? Is that who and who? What you found in that guy ar? How is things going on? Hahaha…each time I feel to tell her : just ask lah straight what you want to know? Just tell lah what secret you want to tell me about that guy!

Always sound like mystery or horrible story that she wish to tell but ended with …..speechless….

2nd one I met on Sunday dinner…42 yrs old men, speak very well English with the American “slang”…he was telling me that he stayed at US from the last 22 years, half retire, enjoying life bla bla bla….sound interesting…the most interesting here come….
“I found its nice to talk to you, and you sound interesting, can I get your contact from who and who?” errr….apa ni? …ok, I said…

Later on, who and who came to tell me the men was telling him he wasn’t meant what he has said just now to have my number..I was…errrr…eh, whats wrong with this fello ah? I am seriously don’t think I ever have “impress / express” anything to a stranger that drop by and talk to me for 10 mins. Don’t think he is in a bet with anyone as he doesn’t know the rest of people in the dinner. I think he is kind of like the “SHOK SENDIRI” stuff…hahaha

3rd one on Sunday dinner as well….this is “slightly” better…this one out of the sudden from chatting said: Do you have msn? Can I have your msn id? BUT…..just be friend only ah…. Hahaha, this one make me laugh more….I should have replied him like what Daniel said : “Yes, I do have msn, but…don’t think I want to take you as my friend leh”…Let him go die die…hahahaha

Aiyo, don’t ask me what kind of ppl I have attracted to (based on the law of attraction)…. Maybe I am kind of weirdo just like them….(maybe..hmh…)…. hahaha… well, have enough fun by the end of the day for whatever “drama” on this two days.

2009-09-09T23:30:00.002+08:00

終於見識到男人的現實了﹗也不需要這樣吧﹐360度的轉變﹐從很有紳士風度到現在“管你去死吧﹗”的態度﹐晤晒甘樣呱﹗

也不可以說不生氣﹐就算只是普通朋友﹐也不會這樣現實吧﹗ 至少我的其他男性朋友都不會這樣的。。哎呀﹐雖然說你可能已經有了其他目標﹐也有點太刻意了吧。。刻意到加強表現出我們之間只是普通朋友。。不需要吧。。反正什麼也沒發生過﹐除了約會過幾次....我也不認為我曾死纏爛打的對你..當然以我的驕傲﹐我肯定不會.

覺得蠻搞笑的。。或許說我曾經對你感覺蠻好的﹐但是日子久候﹐發生的點點滴滴里﹐就像今晚的事件﹐讓我不得不對你另眼相看....hmh...

人家都說新加坡人現實﹐之前也認為你蠻有風度的男人﹐現在終於領教過了....hehheh..

算了吧,一椿小事而已...

8 Sep 09 8.20pm@home

2009-09-08T20:10:00.003+08:00

有上千個借口不愛你﹐卻只需一個理由愛上你。。。。

A thousand excuses for not loving you, just one reason to fell in love with you....

鞋子裡有沙不一定要換鞋子

2009-09-07T18:15:00.003+08:00

很有意思的故事，有多少人会真正的体会和珍惜自己所拥有的呢？往往就是只看见失去的，遥不可及的才是最好的，越难得到的东西才是最好的吗？多么的愚蠢啊。。。。
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畢業後和我在台北上班，不久，她結了婚，丈夫是某政要的秘書，有名的筆桿子，真的是郎才女貌，作為同學自然為她美好生活而高興。

雖然和她見面的機會不多，但她的好消息卻不斷傳來：丈夫升職了、她當母親了。

偶爾在街上遇見她，濃淡適宜的妝容，氣質優雅極了，直覺她真是一個幸福的女人。

最近又遇見她，她還是那麼美麗，較之以前更多了幾分成熟。我向她打趣，有愛情的滋潤，女人的美麗就是不一樣。她只是淡淡一笑，平靜之中似乎有些憂傷。

她說：「婚姻如鞋，合不合腳只有自己知道。」
「妳那雙優質的婚姻鞋難道不合腳？」我反問。

她的話匣子打開了，也許是平時她少有傾心訴說的機會，此時，她歷數丈夫的種種陋習：喝酒、抽煙、應酬多、早出晚歸 ……讓她慢慢地受不了，她是個很敏感的女人，很在乎自己的感受，天長日久，灰色情緒漸漸堆積，離婚的心情都有了。

沉默了半響，我問她：「妳愛妳的丈夫嗎？」

我這明顯的廢話，從她的表情就應該看得出來，她正是因為太愛、太在乎，所以才會有失望。

「妳丈夫愛妳嗎？」這也是廢話，她不可能和一個不愛自己的人在一起生活。

我笑著對她說：「其實妳的鞋子還是很合腳的，只不過鞋子裡有幾粒沙子而已。」

她是個聰明的女人，她明白了我的意思。

她笑著說，那沙子挺硌人的，要想辦法把它們拿出來才好。

處理沙子的問題，那可是妳自己的事，我笑了。

這世上有很多人說鞋子不合腳，其實未必就是鞋子有問題，可能是鞋中之沙造成了一種不合腳的錯覺。因為幾顆沙粒而放棄整雙鞋子，那可是天下第一號大笨蛋。

她聽後笑開了，笑得嫵媚而動人。

4 Sep 09 9.05pm@home

2009-09-04T21:00:00.004+08:00

生命往往就是這樣﹕

躲避不一定躲得過﹐
面對不一定最難受﹐
得到不一定能長久﹐
失去不一定不再有﹐
轉身不一定是軟弱﹐
放開不一定是放棄﹐

別說別無選擇﹐世上也不只有對於錯﹐該與不該。。許多事情的答案往往不只一個﹐所以永遠是有路可以走。。一切都是在於我們的選擇。

懂得放心的人找到輕鬆﹐
懂得遺忘的人找到自由﹐
懂得放棄的人找到擁有﹐
懂得知足的人找到幸福﹐
懂得放開的人找到快樂

3 Sep 09 9.05pm@home

2009-09-03T20:21:00.005+08:00

I actually thought about this few times before...A pair of eyes that can see the big giant in you with a big heart..where to find ar?

What can't deny is that most of us are in the natural habbit of judging the book from its cover. I always hv this to tell: the person can appreciate the strength in me, seeing me with his heart rather than his eyes..thats worth than any thousand dollar diamond.

You know, most of my guy frns will tell me this:
Look, everyone have their past, as a frn, I am totally looking down at the judgemental guy...but....sorry, thats not for me. I want the perfect! hahaha

well well well, everybody likes fancy stuff..nothing wrong..just human natural.

I hv a colleague Kenny said, if he has choice, why not go for the best one? the topic here is how you judge on the "Best"..in term of appearance 100% + understanding100% + pure in record.... Make it more perfect if he/she is RICH!!..i really wonder, how many of perfect in the world and do we actually hv the luck to meet & grabs it?

I hv another colleague Ham..He married to a divorcee with kids. Kenny always make this as something to be laugh..Not that Ham has no choice, he is a senior engineer with great income, single and pure in record..ofcourse we still can say maybe the wife are pretty...thats I am not sure, never met the wife before.

One of my good looking uncle, early 40s, married a divorcee with 2 kids too...thats I can say for sure, his wife is not pretty, short and fat, dark in skin...my uncle hv to take thousand of laughter when he decided to marry her...

I always impress on those ppl that having such a big heart which not everyone can hv ...the pair of eyes and the huge space of heart to focus on what's their real needs from a solemate..

well, everyone's needs are different, it could be a Needs for others that having a "presented"..no offence..

you know, some ppl are kind of the catergory of "good to see, not good to hv"..just like i cant take it to hv a bf that younger than me 10 yrs with David Beckham's face and Ronan Keating's voice..OMG! such a perfect combination!

By the end of the day, is the wisdom of seeing things out of the box...seeing what is the deep real in you.. :)

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THERE ARE SO MANY MEN WHO CAN FIGURE COSTS, AND SO FEW WHO CAN MEASURE VALUE....

BEING HAPPY DOESNT MEAN THAT EVERYTHING IS PERFECT. IT MEANS THAT YOU'VE DECIDED TO LOOK BEYOND THE IMPERFECTIONS....

2 Sep 09 Wednesday 9pm@home

2009-09-02T20:47:00.006+08:00

This is a very demotivated day..1st time came across my mind of giving up this job..never thought to give up easily, I love my colleagues, my work station, my job..somehow, just realise I have no way to go further in this company(achieving my big money dream!!hahahaha)....by the end of the day..its all about whether the possibilities & chances that allow to me..

Well, this a taught day..for whatever reason, I lost my tears...becos of the tension, becos of the upset from someone, becos of the reality that I refuse to see, becos of something i been insisting to persit...now all hv to give up and let go..

Like I told Sonny, I love to torture myself..for being stuborn to admit I am wrong..just like Ah Ngau...the fireman HK series...I was watching with touch! He looks like Ah Leong, in term of appearance, in term of character...such familiar...somehow, it cant go away from my thought and a whisper "Am I stuborn like Ah Ngau"? Oh no, thats too extreme..i dont want to be like him..

I am telling myself tomorrow is a brand new day! Switching & shifting from the bad energy, be ignorant to my dissapointment and hold my focus to the destiny!!creating another sunshine after a raining day...

Maybe things will only happen when I stop searching and letting go....

ITS ALL THE PAIN OF FACING MY FAILURE....

2009-03-18T14:22:00.003+08:00

3月18日阴天下午2.21

下大雨的清晨。。冷冷的天气。昨晚又再次的梦见了你。长长的头发垂到耳边，瘦瘦的脸庞到我家来把下载了的电影转达给我。。看来我依然对你耿耿于怀，所以才会一直的梦见你。

收心，养性。。这标题是为了勉励你还是我，还是别人，都很好。可以从那你的标题里了解到你的心情也蛮好的，至少可以知道你过得好不好。

你的领悟对你我她或许也是一件好事，你的解脱，我的放开。。

日子每天都过得很快，繁忙的工作令我更懂得珍惜所可以拥有的个人空间。心情一天比一天的平静。。活在“施比受更快乐”的心情下觉得轻松自在。有句话“能舍便能得到"，没有想“得到”的心情，只觉得能够有施舍的机会已经是一种最大的幸福了。更别说是舍于自己心爱的人，更是一种最大的满足了。

懂得知足就是最大的快乐。

2009-03-13T14:12:00.004+08:00

13 Mar 09 Friday Raining Day

Jane is living happily each day! Changing things in her life filling in with colors.

New hair style, new curtain in pink & blossom flowers, batik paintings from the orphans, from mountain scenery paintings to peony flowers painting.... little water falls, green plotter plant. A small renovation to the house changing to a cheerful and new mood.

Seeing beautiful things and decoration in her house & office cheering her everyday. She started appreciating the great of living.

Though, some how still missing Wayne sometimes but she acknowledge it now instant of forcing herself to avoid it.

The new job given her great satisfactions and joys. Working & playing with new colleagues, getting along well. Always cheering up by the group of colleagues....Uncle Lim, Raymond, Daniel, Elsie & Uncle Yap. Difference back ground, difference age, difference department & difference languages…

A 10+ years old friendship’s friend, married with 2 kids was telling her on wed night that he was attracted by her since the friendship started….before he was into relationship with his current wife. Feels embrace to react though the conversation was originally from other topic…though Jane already knew it since that time and never ever thought of being with him other than friendship…. Well, well, well…the friendship didn’t get affected just because he has shared something which was happened 10+ years ago. Jane would never ever wanted to get involve into relationship with married man again…something which was happened before would not want to repeat it again…One Wayne already good enough to gave her good memories….once in a life time!

Great master Sonny Tsan for the transformed. Lost 7kgs (7 more to go!), Throw out pants dressing to all skirt and lady like style, little makeup, 5” high heel & soft spoken. Jane enjoying a reborn of her with much confident and getting prettier each day! She was cheering up everyday with smiley face and love checking on mirror!!

Keep moving forward and getting better each day!

2009-03-12T15:14:00.000+08:00

3月12日晴天 3.15pm

知道你已经放下了。。我相信一切都会慢慢的变好。。也会转换另一个心情继续的走下去。会把想念的心情转变成怀念和回忆。。我会过得好好的。。

“从前有一个老和尚和一个小和尚,一起下山化缘,他们到了一条河边,这时候他们看到一个年轻貌美的姑娘也要过河,老和尚想了想,就挽起裤腿,背着她过了河,然后把姑娘放下,走了,到了晚上,小和尚想了很久,还是忍不住问老和尚:"师傅,都说我们出家人不能近女色,那你为什么破戒背她过河啊"? 老和尚说:"我把她背过河就放下了,你看你,直到现在还没有放下她!”

让你飞

2009-03-11T10:31:00.003+08:00

http://www.jumbot.cn/...ycheung_rangnifei.mp3

歌手：张学友

谁说情共爱不需要后悔与忍耐
又谁说情共爱终需要放开
宁愿在孤单的岁月
看苍生变尘埃
谁愿看当天风中约誓
今天轻率变改

如你离别我可知我愿意去等待
若谁也离别你不必痛哀
如明日跟他的约誓
爱恋抛进泪海
仍是我始终都不退后
真爱并没离开

因为只爱着你
不愿给你伤悲
你要走请不必感慨
宁愿你别离
不断地看着你
不倦不悔地飞
如若是一天当你倦了
如若后悔亦无需呼叫
静悄地我必奔向你

在世上我真心爱你

Friday Morning!

2008-10-10T08:55:00.007+08:00

I am Back!

Back from the lemony! back into my life!
A good Friday morning, with a great weekend ahead!

Looking forward for tonight, tomorrow, the day after!!

What is the NEXT?! Wow! Set a new DOE! Discipline up myself to be on track with the DOE!!

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Great meet with Yat Seng & Faizal last night! Eventhought me and Yat Seng gotto have 2 times dinner at SS2 hawker center(Piew!) waiting for Faizal!

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Found a picture taken with ex-colleague in CarigaliHess!

The Emo from Lemon Sour!

2008-10-08T08:48:00.006+08:00

Feeling lazy and no energy...Raining day in heart. Fighting strong against "BY MY WAY!".Pulling left and right to find a balance.

Emotionally weak today. Still can't get rid from rejection. How do I feel now in my heart? It's abit down...that I can't force the awareness on what I appreciated, that things out of my control (Typical controller), that something I see possibilities, but...I am not allow the chance to take the try.

I have tones of awareness to motivate myself, just wanted to take a moment of break from my mind and let it flow by emotion.

"Let it flow, let it flow, ...I can't control..so let it flow..Let it flow, let it flow..I lost my soul, so I will let it flow...."

I will be fine after a while.

I am just emo that why can't we human being seeing and appreciate the sentence of "Appreciate what god have given and put infront of our eyes" instant choose to repeat rounding the cycle, searching up and down? Not even have the guts to take up a try & experience it!

We are just too result concern (either me!), that's created the fear for failure..for moving foward.

The Secret Things of God

2008-09-29T12:57:00.004+08:00

Was full with stress and frustration last two days. Alot of things in head that I couldn't get it off and confuse about "why"? Things doesn't go by my way, feeling bad and keep finding solution what's wrong and why it's not work?

Discovered something from the book read last night "The secret things of God".

It said: Our gentle father (God) never let go of us. Things doesn't go by our way as our request because there is something better on the way.

God are just like our parent who will never want their children to feel bad or suffer, thats the reason a parent will not give everything their children asked for! Because, they knew what the children asked is something that will hurt them. Parent will only give the best to their children. The request will be fullfilled with the best which he will give later.

Randy Paush like to use the statement " Let the karma take care itself!" in his talk and lecture, I interpreted it as the same as the parent's theory.

Another question that being borthering me is : why am I attracted similiar type of guys arround me and repeating the same result? What is going on inside me? What is the message I been transmitting?

Just one flash across the mind, it brought me to the answer! "We are the source of everything!" Why am I repeating attracted guys that are aggressive in starting but lost himself thru the journey?

Because THATS ME! The only reason is because I am the same type of characater, only then I will get attracted by the same being. LAW OF ATTRACTION!

The book "The Secret things of god" do said: the only way to turn it off is NOT TO DANCE with them! Dance with the style I intented to have!It then came back with the BE DO HAVE theory...Be in behavoiur like what you want to have!

Kind of Roller Coaster in emtion this 2 weeks! Letting it go!

"What are you pretending not to know?"

2008-09-26T11:29:00.008+08:00

Being letting the blog hanging on the air last few months....

A friend Sonny was telling me " I also don't know what I want in relationship" last nite..started MMing in my mind and that statement sound to me that:

1) Avoiding??
2) Not dare to take risk??
3) Lack of focus??

And I think...this is the most important one:

That's not the one you are seeing - The Person!!

I always believe the strongest power is from our INTENTION. There will be nothing could stop us to go ahead and get what we want. We will do whatever it TAKES to achieve it. That's why there are ppl committed suicide, the intention to avoid and ran away overcome the fear...oops! this should not be a good example to talk about..hehe

Is the matter of WANT & DON"T WANT instant of DONT KNOW.

WANT = INTENTION
DONT KNOW HOW / WHAT / WHY = CONSIDERATION

Result will come only when the intention is bigger than consideration. Thus, I will put my energy to focus on my intention.

Well, like we know, human being are not stupid, just that too good in Pretending DO NOT KNOW. And this is what you and me always like to do : JUSTIFY our action by pretending stupid.

Could it be this too?
That 1) you see something attracted in 1st person
2) then you see another things that attracted in 2nd person

then you started to "forgot" (instant of Do Not Know)what you want which you are always clear all this while. And you created confusion to yourself and lost.

All this could it cause by our human being character which is : Take things for granted & do not learnt about appreciation / satisfy with whatever good things that god given us? Stop asking / taking and start giving to people arround us.

Basically,as I told Sonny, What you want started from What do you feel? I tell myself everyday morning while driving to work and before I close my eyes to sleep "WHAT I WANT"..repeat and repeating everyday to remind myself and guide me back to track (from not out of the path).

Stop analysing and back to the our pure mind for a moment...listen to our heart, then only we can SEE clearly with our eyes. Our Heart will tells us What We Want!

N/P: Since we are talking about relationship, lets share what I want in a relationship.

I want a relationship Joy, Support, Care and Love. And I am seeing who can I be with a relationship that full with joy, support, care and love. I will ask my feeling and listen to my heart whenever I discovered an opportunity : Can this person give me what I want? Do I see possibilities that this person can give me what I want?

If yes, take the risk! No risk no gain.

Just some kind of sharing today. Cheers!

《是非题》

2008-06-12T08:37:00.002+08:00

范玮琪《是非题》

每段故事都有一篇剧情
每段爱情都像动人旋律
一颗真心却只向着你前进
也许爱越单纯越着迷

你是窗外另外一片风景
在你眼里我是什么关系
你的呼吸藏在我的爱情里
何时能诚实面对自己

我们从不开口那个言语
那一句我爱你
永远像少了勇气
别人都说
我和你之间的关系
没有人相信只有关心

我们从不正视那个问题
那一些是非题
总让人伤透脑筋
我会期待
爱情盛开那一个黎明
一定会有美丽的爱情

忘忧草

2008-06-11T13:55:00.002+08:00

Peace in my mind...

歌词：忘忧草(周华健)

让软弱的我们懂得残忍
狠狠面对人生每次寒冷
依依不舍的爱过的人
往往有缘没有份

谁把谁真的当真
谁为谁心疼谁是唯一谁的人
伤痕累累的天真的灵魂早已不承认还有什么神
美丽的人生善良的人
心痛心酸心事太微不足道
来来往往的你我遇到相识不如相望淡淡一笑

忘忧草忘了就好梦里知多少
某天涯海角某个小岛某年某月某日某一次拥抱
轻轻河畔草静静等天荒地老

From the Top of the Sky

2008-06-04T23:23:00.002+08:00

活着的幸福

2008-05-23T12:27:00.008+08:00

每次看见四川地震的新闻都会忍不住眼泪在眼眶。。那些不幸的人，那些不顾一切去保护家人的人。。一再让我深深的体会到自己是多么的幸福。。我所拥有的一切是多么的幸运。。对于那些不幸的人，他们是多么的努力才生存下来，有些甚至尽了最大的能量也活不下来。。

没有什么比活着更幸福了。。父母的对孩子的牺牲更是世上最伟大的。。

People are rushing to donate money. Many rich people donated in millions, but no one can match Xu Chao(徐超). He is a homeless in Nanjing, 1000 miles from the disaster area. He saw the news and went to donate 5 Yuan in the morning. He said people in the disaster area were worse off than him because their lives were threatened. He came back in the afternoon, donated another 100 Yuan ($14). He explained that all he had were pennies and dimes, and he didn’t want to waste volunteer workers’ time to count them, so he went to the bank to change everything he had into one big bill. This is from a man who doesn’t have money to buy food for himself.

Song Xinying (宋馨懿), 3, pulled out from rubble after being buried for 2 days. She was in critical condition and lost a leg, but survived. Her parents hold each other’s hands and shoulders face to face to make an arch to shield her from the falling building. Her parents did not make it out.

A 5 year old boy was rescued after being buried under rubbles for 24 hours. His left hand was broken, but he smiled and saluted to his rescuers. His smile made everybody cry.

Yuan Wentin(袁文婷), 26, first grade teacher. When the earthquake struck, she rushed to carry her stunned students from classroom on the 3rd floor to the ground. She managed to pull out most of her students, but the building collapsed when she was trying to pull out the last few. At the last moment of her life, she was trying to use her body to shield the students from falling concrete.

Many teachers did the same thing. They are 谭千秋、张米亚、苟晓超、吴忠洪、杜正香......

This high school student was rescued from the collapsed building. She lost both legs, and her both hands are broken. The rescue workers were all in tears when they saw this. She smiled to them: “Be Brave!”

This baby, after being buried over 24 hours, miraculously, was rescued unscratched. He is about 3-4 months old, and his mother kneeled down, pinned her head and hands on the ground to shielded him from the falling concrete, and milked him. His mother did not make it out. A rescue worker found his mom’s cell phone in his wrapper. It had a text message left by his mother: “Dear child, if you survive, please remember, Mom loves you forever…”

今日

2008-05-21T08:36:00.004+08:00

歌手:陈奕迅

今日事情如不顺　今日问题如不尽
像处圈中圈　了断也了不断

若今日你倦了颓然哭　容许我送赠暖
准我漫漫长路末端亦如初恋

当日热情燃不尽　今日热情仍不尽
就算怎都好　你愿我更加愿
共跨尽冷及暖甜和酸　才可以算是共存
能共患难才是认真的有缘

抬头吧相信爱你便能飞
敢交出你会创出传奇
变幻人生是避无可避
却没人可驱使爱别离

抬头吧黑暗过会是晨曦
怀著乐观总有转机
今天珍惜今天　逢凝望我心所爱的你
我已彷佛会飞

今日像明日一样　今日任何日一样
就算怎辛酸　爱护你我甘愿
没拣择冷或暖甜和酸　晴天雨季缺或圆
全部受落才是活得真正全

抬头吧相信爱你便能飞
敢交出你会创出传奇
变幻人生是避无可避
却没人可驱使爱别离

抬头吧黑暗过会是晨曦
怀著乐观总有转机
今天珍惜今天　逢凝望我心所爱的你
能敖翔天和地

抬头吧相信爱你便能飞
敢交出你会创出传奇
变幻人生是避无可避
这份情爱却永不会死

抬头吧黑暗过会是晨曦
怀著乐观总有转机
今天珍惜今天　逢凝望我心所爱的你
我已彷佛会飞
你眼睛牵我飞

http://www.91f.org/m/114852.htm

Don't Give Up, Because You Are Loved

2008-05-20T14:07:00.005+08:00

I feel like saying "Don't Give Up because...you are loved"..Josh Gorban's song arose in my mind..

Well, by the end of the day, if anytime it come into Wayne wanted to give up or its no longer a necessary to him, I couldn't ran away from accepting it. Nothing to be regret for whatever it meant to happen, it happened.

I am giving my words that I will never give up on this relationship as long as the big tree still able to give me a shade for rest.

From the 1st day, this relationship is not easy, I am holding my strong belief and appreciate the best what I could have.No matter how taugh, I know its worth it and I know I want it.

No regret for causing the breakdown as keeping my stand to voice out whatever I experience rather than hiding and avoiding my emotion.

Every breakdown with breakthru will move the relationship into a stronger stage. I still believe my tree will be the one strong enough to face whatever breakdown and break it thru..Thats my big tree..

It was a breakdown to me yesterday and I will not let the breakdown swing to higher rather to deal with it in the shorter time. Take a deep breath, its a new day today.

Whether the journey can be proceed its all about our choice..Its all about we still want the relationship?

今天的心情苦苦的

2008-05-19T21:14:00.006+08:00

今天是与WAYNE一起后的第二个生日。经过去年的第一个生日，我知道我不可能可以对他有任何的期望。
”THINK OUT OF THE BOX” 是他时常说的。有时候会觉得这也是一个很好的解释，对任何他不想给的解释。

我难过的不是什么生日的庆祝，而是他一点也不记得。。这说明了什么？这是否再次说明了我在他心里什么都不是。。FOCUS OUT， FOCUS OUT。。我也只是一个普通人，我不能每天都这么通情达理，我也需要关怀

WAYNE 说，他想要我们的感情再夸进一步，他知道他可以给我更多的，但同一时间他给不了。。我只想和他说我只需要他在心里留给我一片小小的，就只有小小的位置就已经是他可以给我的一切了。。让我可以进入他的世界。

很多时候在WAYNE的话里，我感觉到他所投入的感情，但是往往在放下电话后，在他回到了他的世界后，我感觉不到他对这份感情的在意。。更别说对我的关怀。。我感觉到的就只有他一而再，再而三的犹疑这段感情对他来说真的需要吗？

我一再的感觉到自己的存在对他是有无都可以的。。那种不被需要的感觉真得很难受。很多时候看见他挣扎的时候，知道帮不了他，而我想要的只是他可以允许我站在他身边陪他经历一切感受而已。。

去年还会有生日快乐的SMS，今年已经完全不记得了。。今天的心情苦苦的，很想听“富士山下” 很适合苦苦心情的旋律

Laugh For The Day

2008-04-30T08:42:00.003+08:00

DRIVER

Two rich men were talking over coffee one day and one of them said to the other one. "Hey I tell you my driver is really stupid. If you don't believe me I'll show you.
He called his driver Ah Beng over and said, "Ah Beng, here is a $10 note, go to the car showroom and buy me a Mercedes".

To which Ah Beng replied, "Yes Sir! Right away, Sir!" and rushed off to the Showroom.

The rich man then turned to his friend and said, "See, I told you he was stupid."

The other rich man said, "That's nothing, you want to see stupid, I will show you stupid."
And he called his driver, Ali.

"Ali, go home now and check to see if I'm at home."
To which Ali said, "Yes Sir! Right away, Sir!" and ran home.

"See what I told you? He doesn't even have enough brains to know that I cannot be at home if I am here."

Later on, the two drivers met on the road. Ah Beng said to Ali, "Eh, you know my boss is sooooooo stupid. He gave me $10 and asked me to go to the car showroom and buy him a Mercedes.....Doesn't he know that today is Sunday lah, the showroom is closed!"

Ali replied, "You think your boss is stupid? My boss lagi worse, he asked me to go home to check if he is at home... He got handphone what, he can just call up to check lah, bodoh!!!"

*************************************************************************************
CAR

Beng and Seng excited and locked the car in a hurry, forgetting to remove the key which was in the ignition. Realizing the mistake, Beng asked, 'Why don't we get a coat hanger to open it.'
No, that won't work' answered Seng. 'People will think we're trying to break in.'

Then Beng suggested, 'What if we use a pocket knife to cut around the rubber, then stick a finger in and pull up the lock?'

No,' said Seng. 'People will think we're too dumb not to use a coat hanger.'

The kan cheong Beng shouted, 'we'd better think of something fast.
It's starting to rain and the sunroof is open!'

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NOT MY BROTHER!

A pregnant woman gets into a car accident and falls into a deep coma.

Asleep for nearly six months, she wakes up and sees that she is no longer pregnant.
Frantically, she asks the doctor about her baby.

The doctor replies, "Ma'am, you had twins! A boy and a girl. The babies are fine.
Your brother came in and named them."

The woman thinks to herself, "Oh no, not my brother, he's an idiot!"

Expecting the worst, she asks the doctor, "Well, what's the girl's name?"

"Denise," the doctor says.

The new mother thinks, "Wow, that's not a bad name!

Guess I was wrong about my brother. I like Denise!" Then she asks the doctor, "What's the boy's name?"

The doctor replies, DeNephew.

*************************************************************************************
ITALIAN

To impress his date, the young man took her to a very chic Italian restaurant. After sipping some fine wine, he picked up the menu and ordered.

"We'll have the Giuseppe Spomdalucci," he said.

"Sorry, sir," said the waiter. "That's the owner."

A Lesson Well Learnt

2008-04-29T08:28:00.009+08:00

~ Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefits ~

Napoleon Hill

Raining Day

2008-03-12T08:57:00.004+08:00

Raining day mood...Things never be the same again....My emotion is under the rain....Let it out, let it flow, it will back again not longer later....Time to pay back and taste the down....life is such a Roller Coaster, never know what is the next....can I choose not to go down?

The gone of support, the change that need time to shift and be use to it, the taste are sour and bitter....

My Dear LP112!!

2008-03-05T10:12:00.002+08:00

New day with new life

2008-02-19T12:40:00.003+08:00

A new day, new start...with life after LP graduation! Since 4th of Nov.. finally,it comes the day...Relief or Release??

The feeling of flying is such wonderful! LP113, Kam Pah Teh!! Your day will come soon...

Flying Without Wings

2008-01-11T10:46:00.000+08:00

Meaningful Lyrics..

Everybody's looking for a something
One thing that makes it all complete
You'll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be

Some find it in the face of their children
Some find it in their lovers eyes
Who can deny the joy it brings
When you've found that special thing
You're flying without wings

Some find it sharing every morning
Some in their solitary lives
You'll find it in the words of others
A simple line can make you laugh or cry

You find it in the deepest friendship
The kind you cherish all your life
And when you know how much that means
You've found that special thing
You're flying without wings

So, impossible as they may seem
You've got to fight for every dream
Cos who's to know which one you let go
Would have made you complete

Well, for me it's waking up beside you
To watch the sun rise on your face
To know that I can say I love you
at any given time or place

It's little things that only I know
Those are the things that make you mine
And it's like flying without wings
Cos you're my special thing
I'm flying without wings

And you're the place my life begins
And you'll be where it ends
I'm flying without wings
And that's the joy you bring
I'm flying without wings

AWLP112 WoW Day on 29 Dec 07

2008-01-04T08:59:00.000+08:00

Bosses

2007-12-27T14:51:00.000+08:00

Somthing good from an article...

Bosses: You can’t live with them, and you can’t live without them. Like it or not, most of us must deal with a boss, and the way we do so affects not just our career advancement and our salary, but also our mental well-being.

#1: Remember that your boss just might have useful insights
Think you have a clueless boss? Remember the words of Mark Twain, who once said that when he was 14, his father was so stupid it was unbearable. Then, he continued, when he became 21, he was amazed at how much his father had learned in just seven years.

Your boss might be smarter than you think, and maybe later in your career, you will appreciate that fact. Regardless, a bad boss can still offer good advice.

#2: Know your boss’ objectives
You need to know what the boss expects of you (see the next tip). But at the same time, you need to understand how your job helps the boss. Make sure that what you’re doing not only meets your own job description but helps the boss achieve his or her own objectives.

#3: Know what your boss expects of you

Every once in a while, check with your boss about what you’re doing and what you’ve accomplished and make sure your boss has that same understanding. If your boss has issues with your performance, it’s better for both of you that you know sooner rather than later, so you have time to make adjustments.

In a perfect world, no surprises should arise during your performance review. If they do, either your boss didn’t communicate the objectives or you failed to understand them. Don’t let that happen to you.

#4: Be low maintenance
Don’t be the “problem employee,” the one the boss always has to check up and follow up on. Instead, try to be the one the boss can depend on. It might not be apparent immediately, but a good boss will recognize and appreciate that trait.

Are you going to be perfect in your work? Of course not. You’re probably going to make a mistake or create a problem at least once. However, when that happens, and you go to your boss (as you should, as mentioned below), try to go not just with the report of the problem. Think of some solutions and be prepared to offer your recommendations to your boss.

#5: Don’t surprise your boss
Don’t let your boss be blindsided by bad news. In other words, “fee up” if you created a problem or made a mistake.
It’s better that bad news about you should come from you — not from a customer, not from a co-worker, and absolutely not from your boss’s boss. Did you have a negative interaction with an abusive caller or customer? As soon as the call is finished, call your boss and give a briefing. Tell the boss who you spoke with, why that person is upset, and what the boss can expect to hear from that person. Also give your side of the story.

The same advice applies to good news as well. Let your boss know about your successes. Otherwise, your boss might give the impression of being unaware of them when his or her own boss offers congratulations.

#6: Acknowledge your boss in your successes
The moment has arrived: You’re in front of your group, receiving an award or other recognition from your boss or your boss’ boss. An appropriate thing to do at this point is to recognize the people who made it possible, in particular your boss. It’s easy to do if your boss really did help you. What about the “difficult” boss, though? You should try to say something, but at the same time you probably should be truthful as well.

#7: Don’t take criticism personally
Because most of us are so involved with our work, it’s hard to separate ourselves from it. So when someone criticizes our work, we view that criticism as a personal attack. Reacting that way can hinder our development and our progress. The next time your boss (or anyone else) criticizes your work, try pretending that the work was done by someone else. Then, examine it as a third party would and test the validity of the criticism.

A smart boss realizes that your success is tied to his or her own success. Therefore, the boss has an interest in your doing well. Furthermore, criticism from the boss could be a sign that the boss has high expectations from you.

#8: Remember your boss has a boss
We discussed earlier the importance of knowing your boss’ objectives. In the same vein, be aware that your boss has a boss as well.

You can use that fact to build a collaborative relationship with your own boss, because both of you have a common objective of making the boss’ boss happy and making your boss look good. Having that collaborative relationship gives your boss a better impression of you and gives you visibility to your boss’ boss.

#9: Don’t upstage your boss
Upstaging your boss can limit your career mobility. Therefore, be careful of correcting your boss in public.

There’s one instance when it’s okay to correct your boss in public: when your boss mistakenly thinks he or she made a mistake but really didn’t. Suppose your boss quotes a figure while giving a presentation. He or she then stops and says, “I’m sorry, I think I made a mistake.” If you know the boss was originally correct, it’s fine at that point to interrupt and say, “No, [boss’ name], you’re correct.”

#10: Manage your boss when necessary
Getting ahead in your career requires more than just sitting back and waiting for assignments. You must take initiative, looking for opportunities and problems to be solved. In doing so, take advantage of any organizational power your boss might have. Explain to your boss your plans and why they represent a good business decision. Then, ask your boss to fight any bureaucratic battles that may arise and to run interference for you. In doing so, you recognize the boss is the boss. However, you are directing your boss, in taking advantage of pull that you possibly lack.

愚者总是以为是智者

2007-12-21T14:34:00.000+08:00

聪明的人总是想得太多，以至失去的也更多。。防备这个，防备那个，避免这个，避免那个。。

“痛快去爱，痛快去痛，痛快去悲伤，痛快去感动。。生命给了什么，我就享受什么。。”

生活不就是这么简单而已。。快乐就是简单与自在。

生命中遇见某些人，发生过某些事情，都是活过的证据。应该感激和珍惜与某些人一起经过的日子，增添了我的记忆。。是美好的，是悲伤的，都去体会和体验。。这就是我一生中的彩色片段。。

发生过的我无法抹去，它存在记忆里就是存在，何必去否认? 痛苦得想要死吧? 别死，别死。。看看前方，还有许多更好的事情，这只是一部分而已。。甜酸苦辣，这就是人生

聪明人啊，聪明人，何必这样呢?

Thursday, PH, @ Home...

2007-12-20T19:10:00.000+08:00

20 Dec 07, Thursday, Public Holiday…Nothing special things happened..

A day to have total rest from LP meetings and every other single stuff..

Finally can do my normal stuff : marketing, cooking, watching HK drama, nail polishing, face mask, staying home for peace whole day etc etc… Come on, Ah Beng, don’t laugh, this is me!! I know is auntie stuffs, but this is me, Ok? This is what I love to do…I know you said it's boring…Shut up!!

Still down mood, energy level low…Christmas coming, holiday coming…,tomorrow working….got to wake up by 6am…

Still cant get away the disappointed mood with somethings, not moving…rejection, rejection, rejection everyday everywhere…Yeah, uncondition contribution....come on, I am human, can't be 365days "uncondition contribution" mood..

One day to handle it, end of today, brand new day tomorrow, move on!!!

Under emotion, all kind of negative energy start generated….swinging to the emotion side…Let it flow, let it flow, let it flow, I can’t control, so let it flow…

Why resist? Resistance bring more emotion…accept, acknowledge the situation and feelings…it is fine…no resistance, it will be easy to move on with the situation then…

WOW day sponsorship turned down by NESH, criticism from Heng for the charity and community service…All kind of feedback, I cant take criticism? No, no, that’s nothing big deal with it….swim with rejection and have a look at it.. Rejection is the time to review myself…

Twisted my foot on squash game, so pain…what should I do ah? Put cream massage? The more I massage the more pain I get!!….Red spot at my back (the “gift” from wholeday under hotsun charity car wash) started to tune down…no more itchy….thanks god!!

Still haven’t finish reading my Princess Diana book….Not really can understand all the sentences….gotto do for another round of reading later on…Ah Beng will said: Yeah, I knew you are tupiddd!!!…yeah, that’s Ah Beng, always a lot of things to say, and always pronounce “Stupid” as “Tupidd”.

Carry on with my whole day "marathon" HK drama...

Money matter

2007-12-07T14:52:00.000+08:00

GOOD ONE!

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above.

You might say that I'm greedy,but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York . My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married?

I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I've
dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden ( ? ) , $250k annual income is not enough.

I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and
addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)

2) Which age group should I target?

3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I've met a few girls
who doesn't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry
rich guys

4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend?
(my target now is to get married)

Ms. Pretty

Here's a reply from a Wall Street Financial guy:

Dear Ms. Pretty,

I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and
"money": Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade,but my money will not be gone without any good reason.

The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position,dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term, same goes with the marriage that you wanted.

It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with
great depreciation value will be sold or "leased". Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy.

And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps. If you are interested in "leasing" services, do contact me

signed, J.P. Morgan

Clove & Clive Publication

2007-12-06T20:29:00.000+08:00

Thanks Clove & Clive - a community caring society sponsorship on the valuable booklet "LOVE, is all about...you!!" for LP112 WOW day Fund raising & Donation.

A small but very meaningful booklet. Part of our donation & fund raising gift.

Clove & Clive Publication, a non profitable organisation,supported by public donation and conducting short mindfulness program.

Personally I like the booklet very much. The phrases in the books are just Great! Great! Great! Something valuable to apprecaite in life :

1)Accepting yourself for who you are and who you are not
2)Allowing others to be themselves
3)Giving worth to yourself
4)Giving up self-pretense and simply be who you are
5)Listening to your heart
6)Listening with the silence of the heart
7)Letting go of control
8)Forgiving yourself unconditionally
9)Surrendering to your highest good
10)Allowing yourself to live instead of exist

etc etc etc..

LP112 WOW day : 29 Dec 07
Program : Fun Fair & Hotballon for orphanage estimated 300 persons
Activities : Pony Ride
: Hot Ballon
: Bounch Castle
: Ballon Crowl
: Fun Fair Stall

What Becomes Of The Broken Hearted

2007-12-04T08:38:00.000+08:00

As I walk this land of broken dreams
I have visions of many things
But happiness is just an illusion
Filled with sadness and confusion
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe

Fruits of love grow all around (all around)
But for me they come a-tumbling down (a-tumbling down)
Every day heart aches grow a little stronger(just a little stronger)
I can't stand this pain much longer

I walk in shadows searching for light (searching for light)
Cold and alone no comfort in sight (no comfort in sight)
Hoping and praying for someone who cares
Always movin' and going nowhere

What becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Help me please

I'm searching though I don't succeed
So much love and a growing need (such a growing need)
All is lost there's no place for beginning
All that's left is an unhappy ending

Now what becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
I'll be searching everywhere
Just to find someone to care

I'll be looking every day
I know I'm gonna find a way
Nothing's gonna stop me now
I'll find a way somehow

What becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Baby(Oh yeah)

What becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who have love that's now departed

What becomes of the broken hearted

Rejection..

2007-11-27T07:58:00.000+08:00

I tasted rejection yesterday..it is hurt, really, it is hurt..but it make me see clearer.

Rejection….No one like rejection, especially it comes with expectation. It make me taste sad, hurt, disappointed, bitter and not nice. What can I do? Of course I wish I could be accepted too bad I can't force the person accept whatever I give or ask, even though just a simple thing..(of course, something seems simple to me doesn't means simple to that person.)

This is also a result…why am I getting such result from the person? Its all about how am I show up and built up the kind of feeling or impression that generated this result. Its time to step back and take a look….why this is not working? Wrong mechanism? Wrong approach? or just simply I am not worth to the person to contribute?

Step back, take a look, it could be keep on trying again until the arrow hit the red point, or its time to take a step, shift to next. Sometimes, when it keep on failure or just not working, maybe is the time to shift…

Quote : “Failure is the chance to do better next time”

Disable Parking Lot??

2007-11-21T12:50:00.001+08:00

12.15pm - Am looking for parking lot at Metro Prima Jusco. Rounded and rounded for few times....All occupied except "Parking for Disable"...Reminded me a joke from Ching Ching weeks ago.It brought up smile on my face..

Ching Ching said:

"Good man are just like parking lot! Nice, good parking all occupied! The only left over and available always is....."Disable or Cacat"...Is that true? guys...haha

Then, Victor said:

"The nice and good girl house parking lot always occupied by expensive car. Lets go check from time to time if the expensive car is no longer there, maybe we can drive in with our proton car!" ...This is somemore joke! haha

Cheers!

Step of Moving Forward

2007-11-20T10:17:00.000+08:00

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give for everything that happens to you,

knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and

better than your current situation."

-- Brian Tracy, Author

My Gold fish Aquarium

2007-11-15T22:21:00.000+08:00

Wow! Now my house have a little small gold fish aquarium!

This is something I've done together with my sister on Depavali day! We went to Pudu Pasar checking on fish and stuff for setting up an aquarium at home.

Like so much of Nemo fish, too bad...need to keep still water for at least one day and expensive in the water plant, chiller (if we going to have big aquarium)!! Hard to take care as need alot of attention and care on keeping Nemo fish.

So, we decided to have an experimental aquarium with gold fish!! cute and big gold fish, 2 orange, 2 red head and 2 black...too bad the 2 black were "served" as the 2 red head lunch at the next day!

Now my house are alive with life feeling...water leaking sound in the house cheer up the quiet and lonely atmosphere! Cool!!

My most expensive book

2007-11-15T21:34:00.000+08:00

Went to Ikano Harris checking on Princess Diana book last nite..as one of the assignment is to complete a book about my admire leader in this 90 days. I've chosen Princess Diana, Jean chosen Angelina Jolin, Yat Seng chosen Lim Goh Tong and Faizal chosen Nelson Mandala...hmh...

Then I've bought a most expensive book I ever bought in my life about Princess Diana whole life story, with fancy and nice quality paper lah...cost me...RM142.90!! Wah lao, so heart pain, but its ok lah, something valuable to keep as well.

Was checking a chinese-english dictionary for Seng Cheong at the same time...ended....bought him one stationary and get myself 2 books of stationary...which is the chinese and english idioms stationery...something I wish to improve since sometimes ago.

Spoken to Philip asking for help in my DOE goal...get confuse by the measurement of "beautiful"....how to measure and define beutiful??? lost weight, facial doesn't mean will look beautiful?? how to measure inner beauty??

Impress of Philip that just about 10 mins, he managed to put back all my pieace and pieces confusion into a clear picture..wow! Then I see the picture back into my mind with clear direction and objective! Hmh!!

Staff still haven't come back from her 2 weeks leave yet. Her works and my works almost covering my workstation. Glad & suprise I didn't "kill" my boss for approved my staff's 2 weeks Depavali's holiday .. hahaha

Feel much more patient and committed to my job after the training course...Thats should be good news to my boss at least..

Coming to 2nd weeks after Advance course graduation, things still going pretty well, much more manageble now in up & down..

More photo...my buddies

2007-11-15T21:06:00.000+08:00

I like those pictures...My lovely coursemate from Asian Works Self Awareness & Life Motivation Advance Training Course...We work together, share happiness and challenges together...and tomorrow, we are going to the Leadership Program for the 90days challenge again!

~ Seng Cheong,Jean, Faizal, Yat Seng & Me @ Advance graduation day 4th Nov 07

~ Faizal & me @ Advance graduation day 4th Nov 07

@ Nan Heong Steam Bun Dinner - The Curve 14th Nov 07

~ Dreaming Seng Cheong & Hong Heng Yat Seng

~ Hungry Beast Faizal & Beauty Jean

~ Honeymoon couple Yat Seng & wife Amber

2007-11-13T18:02:00.000+08:00

Accepting Yourself for Who You Are and Who You Are Not

Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections.

Words to Share

2007-11-12T08:22:00.000+08:00

~~ Everyone have Black spot in our life.The black spot will be always there, there is no way to earase or ignore it no matter how we pretend it do not exist.Recognized it and enrich life with others meaningful things and it will stay life with black spot together with wonderful things.

~~ Life is just like a big old clock swinging from one side to another. The more stretch, the higher can swing in happiness and sadness.

~~ Life got stuck when people started to focus result on them self and became a Taker. Contributing as a Giver, result reflected on people around, and that’s “feedback” which show and tell what kind of people we are ….Look at others as mirror, people focusing self center will never see himself as there is never mirror in front of him.

Asian Works Advance Training

2007-11-07T09:02:00.000+08:00

Feel so excited!! Final relief on the last 5 days torture in the Asian Works Advance course! What the hell of getting scolded and shouted by the trainer (Phyco Chris)?? I don’t get it! I really thought I was in an army camp rather than a self awareness class!

Buuttttt…… it is damn great!! Come on, Chris is actually not that crude and horrible like his appearance and his four letter word F@$#%&, I saw passionate in his eyes when he hold my hand and talk to me at the time I almost gave up and leave the room. There are just kind of human feeling reaching out from his eyes..

Come on guys! Its just the matter how I release my self, throw away my image and open up my real feeling. A real passionate of me!

No big deal with the 2nd day Nite Club lady look! Big ears ring, thick makeup, super short skirt, low cut ….wow!wow! wow!

I almost can’t recognize myself in front of the mirror! Jesus! This is like hmh…more 10 years ago sweat 16s girl! !! I can be so young and pretty???!! Hahaha...cheh cheh cheh!!! Its really really fun!!

My lovely buddies Pasar auntie Jean, Vampire Faizal (ofcourse cute also, that’s for sure!!) , IBM CEO Seng Cheong, don’t know what mushroom hair Yat Seng and Old man Eric…etc etc…Real fun with it!!

Imagine walking around at street, in front of traffic light long jam, people are checking on me…I know, I look funny, is either “an auntie trying to dress up like little girl” or “ I am really look damn good!!!”. Nevermind, I found that’s actually nothing big deal, is rather how I found it and which one I want to be.

Things went terrible on the same day midnight after class while on my way home with my 2 days expired road tax. I got stopped by the police for road block!! Can you imagine a lady at 1 am dressing low cut, short skirt and thick make up, what else can she be in her work????

Can’t think about anything, no way to escape, no money in wallet to give rasuah…only: “shit!! I am going to jail this time!!” God Bless that police let me go, not even check on my road tax!! Wow!! I feel I am so in luck that night! Wonder am I just look too terrible and scare him away???

Worst thing carry on…..4th day new challenge!! This is really really terrible!! My Life Stretch!!

Front Stretch :
5 old angry, blaming, shitting cow eating grass fighting each other, saw a group of bull, get excited and went desperately to them, got hit by truck and they die…ooohhhh…..Oh WTF ! Go for It Anywhere!!

End Stretch:

They are relief and reborn came back as 5 sexy BELLY DANCER!!!

What? Yes!! It is!! Imagine I didn’t even know what is belly dance!! But I get it thru!! Shaking my belly in front of 50people!! Come on, I knew I didn’t do well, in fact I don’t do it right, but I did it! I did it with my best contribution.ok?

Feel so great and found that the feeling are much more amazing that the result when I am fully concerntrate on getting a job done.It showed up the spirit on face and people around can feel it too. That’s the real beauty!!

We have the 5 super hero, superman, spidermen, chinaman etc etc whatever man there die and back became dancing swan! Imagine 5 super hero and big size giant man…wearing the swan costume do ballet dance?????? WTF!! hahahaha!! By the way, they all are muscular real man (dai zhek low!!), ok?

There are The Ballsbuster Sisters, Suicide Hotline, The 5 Shitting Government Worker- Numb Shit, Shit Head, Cooling Shit, Flaming Shit etc etc…hahaha…5 cute looking guy wearing apron holding the toilet brush and pail doing cleaning shit work! Fighting for shit…Oh my god!! Guys, you all the cute cute image all gone disappear…all gone with shit!!

The 5 Horrible Nun, The “Don’t Cha” girls, Yogurt girls, Lost direction Pilot, The Punky, The golden fish uncle group (doing nothing in their life except watching the golden fish die, this is their life…haha)

I feel so glad to be there!! Did so much of crazy stuff, learnt and experience so much of things I never realized in life! So much fun and so much challenged we have breakthrough! Its really like a roller coaster! In fact, life is exactly roller coaster!!

Brief review on what have impact my life in last 5 days course.

Day 1 (Wednesday) : Feedback - Assignment to stand in front of people and listen to what their experience on me.

Day 2 (Thursday) : Image – Assignment to dress up in the worst look that I will never want others to know and see me in that.

Day 3 (Friday) : Life Contract – About my life contract that driven me forward. What kind of person I want to be? What I want in life?

Day 4 (Saturday) : Life Stretch – About how far can my life stretch be? The more I stretch, the highest I can achieve.

Day 5 (Sunday) : Sharing – Assignment of sharing of my contract with others who is a total stranger in public.

Btw, my life contract is : I AM A CONFIDENT, FREE & LOVING WOMEN!!

1000 Dollars

2007-10-30T18:06:00.000+08:00

Wife came home from work and looking very agitated.

Husband asked "Why? Darling”
The wife said “Boss has been harassing me…”
"What does he wants?" asked the hubby.

Boss says that he will throw 1000 dollars on the floor and he will "do it" and STOP once she picks them all up.

Hubby went on a rage but then he stops and thinks…"""heh......that is ok""""""

Hubby then to the wife..."We are quite broke this month. The money can help......can u pick the money FAST?"
Wife said " Yes....I can.....I were hoping u will say that."

So wife went to her boss and agreed the next day.

After 30 minutes the hubby waiting… “why no call?....what is happening?”

So hubby decide to call the wife to enquire as the wife supposed to call in one minute.
That was the time she estimate to pick the 1000 dollar and the time for the boss to take off his pants.

Wife pick up the phone "yessssssssss"

Hubby " Dear, is that all ok?"

Wife...."What do u think?"

Wife again....."The f@#ker throw 1000 dollar in one cents coins and I am still picking it up!!"

People Come for A Reason

2007-10-30T15:12:00.000+08:00

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or
spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on!

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

一些感触而已

2007-10-28T19:25:00.001+08:00

我想，每个人都可以找到令自己快乐的理由。。。

如往常一样，很喜欢也习惯性的在驾着车从JOHOR回来KL的时候想着想着，想到了我的朋友AH TAN。。在想着，可以有毅力的坚持不渝何不为之呢？很佩服他，真的。但是过分的坚持会否是变成了盲目的执着了呢？有时候，过分执着反而会失去得更多。失去了身边可以拥有更好的。其实，就算得到了也未必是最好的。所以，放弃有时候也不一定是痛苦的。最痛苦的反而是那段受尽痛苦看着感情流逝的时段，而自己却无能为力。当然，没有人喜欢失去的感受，伤心难过也当然是有的，但是过分坚持只会令事情变得没有转弯余地，或许就连某天的重逢也消失了。常记得LC 的那句话：如果有缘的话，始终会有再重逢的那天。。是的，很老土的一句话

缘分始终不到我们去勉强和强求，可遇不可求啊！

然后我再想到了自己：怎样才是活得快乐呢？CALM。。是的，不为何事所难过，不为不愉快的事情影响心情，保持冷静。。再加上可以有一点点甜的梦与回忆。

梦虽醒但乐于沉醉，有时也可以成为生活上唯一的一点甜，只要不把这份沉醉变成了过分的沉迷。或许我的生活太苦了，我不需要每天每一刻的清醒，我需要一下子放纵的时刻，来让我呼吸草地上新鲜，没有现实压力的空气。。所以人家常说的，活在清醒是痛苦的。。当然，这不可以成为逃避现实的借口。只要知道自己要的是什么就好了，又何必每刻都绊着现实的清醒呢？

活得快乐不快乐全都是在自己手里的。要伤心难过不难，但要快乐自在也可以找到很多理由。坦白说，我也常常感到难过，但我又可以怎么样？世事从来都不是天从人愿的。只有努力学习看透得失才可以体验到简单生活里的快乐。

AH TAN每次都会令我很有感触，我这个朋友不能为他做些什么，只希望有一天他能看透他的执着，不再活在痛苦里。生命短暂无常啊！朋友。永远不知道明天是否还活着，珍惜身边所得到的一切吧。很可惜，这句话不是每个人都懂得用心去体会和感受。

A Date with Tat & Fong

2007-10-23T16:29:00.000+08:00

Spent whole day with Tat and Fong yesterday. Running around at One U, The Curve and Ikea checking “prestige” pillow for Tat’s pet – a puppy!!! (This fello isn’t abit too much??)

Tat and Fong was my secondary schoolmate. We used to “lepak” around the city in our teenager age. After those 10s years do it again make a fresh flash back on the feelings. Kinda down mood yesterday but glad to run around with 2 buddies and give myself a break. Torture me and Fong’s foot as Tat very choosy and walking fast fello, left me and Fong chasing him at the back!!

Fong suggested movie. 3 of us went to watch “Brothers” …with Ikea curry puff, hotdog and dry slide meat with Pepsi in our hand…like picnic…hahaha. Never forget Tat always like to bring food into cinema since last time. Still remember watched “The Mummy” with him 10 yrs ago, he was holding sushi next to me while I got shock with the movie..joke!

Very boring movie. Thought I am the only one keep fall into sleep when Fong look so serious and concentrate watching the screen, then only I know Tat are sleeping too during the scene…hahaha…at least I am not that bad lah!!

Had a real good time yesterday. Glad that we catch a good time before Tat leave to HK again. Have enough laugh and walk… Laugh until half die...

Such a long time (more than 6 months) didn’t go for movie… Should do it more frequent…

思念是一种病

2007-10-23T09:04:00.002+08:00

不知不觉已经这么多个月了，但有时候还是会想念着他。这种想念已经成为了一种思念，一种不是牵挂，不是占有的思念。没有想见面的欲望，没有刻意想联络的念头，也不想打搅。是逃避还是自欺欺人呢? 不知道。只知道日子依然一天一天的过去，只想平常心的看待。

当然，这绝对是一厢情愿的思念，感情早已经结束了，对他而言早已什么都不是了，你以为我会在乎吗?
有些事情或人在苦闷的日子里回忆怀念一下就好了，何苦在意呢?

那是一种淡淡的惆绪，没有眼泪哭泣，没有失魂落魄。。有的只是心里面的一种小小的无奈失落感, 但是那张笑脸和牵动嘴角一丝微笑的片段，无论多久总是美好的。所以，有着可令你思念的人何尝不是一种幸福呢?

“let it flow, let it flow, I can’t control, so let it flow, I lost my soul, so I will let it flow…”

如果你问我: 是的，我依然想念着他，这也是我对所有人的坦白。太傻了吗? 我就是那个愚者，那又如何?

记得巫启贤多年前的那首歌吗? “思念是一种病”

Men Are Hard To Please!!

2007-10-19T09:25:00.000+08:00

Gals, isn't it so true about men? Classic and always true ... :)

The problem with GUYS:

If you TREAT him nicely, he says you are IN LOVE with him;
If you Don't, he says you are PROUD.

If you DRESS nicely, he says you are trying to LURE him;
If you Don't, he says you are from KAMPUNG.

If you ARGUE with him, he says you are STUBBORN;
If you keep QUIET, he says you have no BRAINS.

If you are SMARTER tha him, he'll lose FACE;
If he's Smarter than you, he is GREAT.

If you Don't Love him, he tries to POSSESS you;
If you Love him, he will try to LEAVE you. (very true huh?)

If you Don't make love with him, he says you don't Love him;
If you Do!! He says you are CHEAP.

If you tell him your PROBLEM, he says you are TROUBLESOME;
If you Don't, he says that you don't TRUST him.

If you SCOLD him, you are like a NANNY to him;
If he SCOLDS you, it is because he CARES for you.

If you BREAK your PROMISE, you cannot be TRUSTED;
If he BREAKS his, he is FORCED to do so.

If you HURT him, you are CRUEL;
If he HURTS you, you are too SENSITIVE!!

Smart Tunnel caught in rising floodwaters AGAIN!!

2007-10-17T15:30:00.000+08:00

From today The Star news. My expected nightmare using Smart Tunnel..thats the reason never and ever wanted to use it especially during raining season! Thunder storm again...man...! Good luck to all the Smart Tunnel user!

Wednesday October 17, 2007

Close call for couple

KUALA LUMPUR: A 56-year-old retiree and his wife had a narrow escape when they got caught in rising floodwaters on the southern approach to the Smart Tunnel here.

The man, who only wanted to be known as Peter, said he was heading to Cheras from Sungai Besi at about 4.15 Tuesday but ended up on the road to the tunnel.

“As I drove down a slope, I saw a pool of water. I decided to drive through it. I only realised the water was quite high when I was already in the pool and my car came to a halt,” he said when contacted.

Peter showing the height of the water level before he and his wife decided to abandon their car.

Within two minutes, he said the water started rising halfway up the car door.

"At this stage, we panicked and decided to abandon the car. We pushed the door open and quickly ran to higher ground,” he said.

He said several officials from the Smart Tunnel arrived at the scene to help him after he contacted them.

After about 30 minutes, the rain slowed to a drizzle and the water subsided. His car was later towed to a workshop with the help of the SMART officials.

When contacted, SMART public relations officer Wan Azhar Wan Yeop said the flash flood at the southern approaches to the tunnel was caused by an adjacent monsoon drain which overflowed.

“The tunnel itself was not affected and continued to operate as usual,” he said.

He said the approach roads from Sungai Besi and the East-West Link had to be closed between 4.15pm and 5pm because of rising waters.

On Peter's case, Wan Azhar said a team from the tunnel responded to his call for help and towed his car to a mechanic.

Food! Food! Food!!

2007-10-17T09:25:00.000+08:00

So many food in pantry this morning! Every Wednesday used to be our “Muffin Day” where one of our Australian expatriate will be “supplying” us San Francisco’s muffin as breakfast. This morning we have additional supplier from another colleague joined the team to build up our fats with Secret recipe’s Cheese carrot cake and Chocolate cake!!

Come with those butter cookies and thick homemade layer cakes from one of the colleague brought from her hometown Kuching. Those festive season’s food really like killing us!! Die…man….look like got to double up my squash hours…..too bad this 2 weeks are having tight schedule in work, not really spend time in catching up exercise….

Make it more worst that get indulge by penang good food every weekend for the whole month weekend travel to penang. Chao Kaoy Teow lah, Cheese pancake, Seafood, Pork Noodles, Assam Laksa, Loh Bak , O-Chiean……Whiew!!

One Hainan chicken rice shop Goh Thow Chicken Rice we accidently found in George town was really good. Crowded with many people. We are lucky can get a table and manage to have it before it quick sold out. The kitchen was really busy in “cooking” the chicken in a very big wok which filled with about 20 chickens.

Basically, those oily but good food in penang can make me die but just no regret… heh heh

Can’t wait for this last week to get over and back to my schedule!! COME ON!!

Oh yeah, it is so happening at Penang at this time nearing to the “Gao Wong Yeh” praying season where every temple full with people praying and 80% of the shop or any hawker on the street are having their vegetarian period for this 2 weeks. One of the seafood shop (which strongly recommended and bumped into my ex colleague KC in that shop also) was closed for 10 days because the vegetarian period which they are not suppose to cook any meat. Can really see and feel the Buddhism atmosphere for this praying season.

Video Clips

2007-10-09T08:58:00.000+08:00

Tuesday morning, have a good laugh on the video clips!

1) 马来西亚版的罗密欧与朱丽叶 - Malaysia version of Romeo & Juliet

http://www.showornot.com/category/productdetails.aspx?id=173

(Really can't stand this guy's version love romance! The transformed Juliet is really over react and make a good laugh and freeze on the Tues early morning!)

2) 台湾报导访问黄明志 - Interview with MIng Zhi for Negarakuku

http://www.showornot.com/category/productdetails.aspx?id=134

3) Japan funny Video

http://www.showornot.com/category/productdetails.aspx?id=137

How men change.....

2007-10-05T15:31:00.000+08:00

Quite true in some sense..haha,perhaps maybe not that worst

The Love Word:
After 6 weeks: I looo-ve you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: GOD, if I didn't love you, then why did I marry you?

Back from Work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
After 6 months: I'm BACK!!
After 6 years: Have you cooked yet?

Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
After 6 months: Here, it's for you.
After 6 years: ANSWER THE PHONE DAM*T!!

Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
After 6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
After 6 years: DUMPLING AGAIN??

New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
After 6 months: You bought a new dress again?
After 6 years: How much did THAT cost me?

TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
After 6 months: I like this movie.
After 6 years: I'm going to watch PIRATES play, if you're not in the mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself!

Making Love:
After 6 weeks: Baby, I want you tonight?
After 6 months: Lets make another baby, my mother just called!!!
After 6 years: Please MOVE over to your side, I'm suffocating here!!!!

Some ways to Destress

2007-10-04T14:23:00.000+08:00

Read an article from a magazine last Sunday about distress. Some ways to handle stress. Simple, easy and found it useful too. (at least to me..)

1)Think about things that can make you happy or flash back some sweet memories that can give u smile.

2)Listen to good songs that can make you wish to sing along or dance.

3)Create some quiet time.Have a peace of mind. Spending time alone maybe just for little while during lunch break by having a cup of coffee, sitting down quietly to rest your mind.

4)Exercise. Do some sport to make you really sweat. Relax your body and after sweating will able to refresh your day from tension.

5)Body or foot massage that relax you physical body stiff.

6)Do something that you like to do like watching tv or shopping. But not over swiping your credit card in shopping.

7)Crying. Tears tend to be a good cure for stress release.Chemistry report did show that some component in tears from emotion able to discharge bad cell component in human body.

8)Just say no. Don’t try to please everybody to achieve approval from everybody.

9)Share with close friend about your upsadness or fears. Never keep it to yourself.

10)Write it out.

11)Never rush and plan for time.

Psychologist Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. wrote : "Life is often messy, uncertain, and unpredictable. Sometimes it's a string of troubles that never seem to end. That's normal. Ups and downs are normal. Being ill on occasion is normal. Feeling peaceful and happy is normal. Occasional low-energy days are normal.Peace of mind comes from not attaching a great deal of significance to either state. Simply note our moods and physical state and gently move toward balance as best we can, accepting it as part of the flow of life.”

张学友《烦恼歌》

2007-10-04T08:46:00.000+08:00

不爱的不断打扰你爱的不在怀抱
得到手的不需要渴望拥有的得不到
苦恼倒不如说声笑笑

生活不要太多钞票多了就会带来困扰
过重的背包过度的暴躁

什么都不要一起呼叫没有烦恼
除了呼吸其他不重要除了现在什么都忘掉
心事像羽毛越飘越逍遥

烦恼什么烦恼除了心跳没有大不了
人们不该去羡慕飞鸟世界比我大把自我缩小
把自己的当做跳蚤谁也不值得骄傲

人间疾苦知多少花开花落知多少

不了把一切看成玩笑吵吵闹闹像G大调
假装什么都不知道
过重的背包过度的暴躁
什么都不要

不和谁比较不和谁争吵
过份思考庸人自扰别庸人自扰
一切轻于鸿毛才能消灭烦恼

一起呼叫什么都不要

Malaysia Boleh Air Asia

2007-10-03T09:10:00.000+08:00

“Who said? Did our rules and regulation mentioned that?” Such unfriendly answer from Air Asia customer service staff. I was just called up to make enquiry on the flight schedule changing and was informed by Air Asia customer service that a fee of RM50 processing charge. Make further request as wondering whether the RM50 could be waive as remembered did requested it before sometimes ago due to some circumstances and the fees was successfully waived by Air Asia.

This is not the one and only time received this type of bad treatment from Air Asia’s staff. There were a time travel with my dad who needs wheel chair assistance and I have requested special assistance before purchasing the ticket. The counter staff confirmed that they will be special boarding entrance for the disable passenger (rather using the shaking stair case). Too bad, it turned up no such thing! My dad really has a bad time to board the aircraft.

Since then I started to boycott taking their flight…but after such long time, I tend to hope that there will be improvement, unfortunately this unfriendly answer showed to me : that’s not! There is no improvement to this “everyone can fly” company!

Guess Air Asia will not need to spend money to put big fancy advertisement in every paper to promote their sale, as they are famous enough in their “service”. I believe thousand of people whoever took Air Asia flight before will share some same experience as me. Times ago the website used to have customer feedback space and as usual, you will see only compliment published there but not even one of the bad complain. I did write in officially about the flight delay but hear no response as expected.

From my experience, our Malaysia Boleh Air Asia been showing the below “qualities” all this years in their performance:

1) Flight Delay at least 2 hours in most of the flight – As explained by Air Asia in every delay event, this is due to technical problem, flight traffic etc etc, too bad, if you were a regular passenger, you will notice the frequency for this “technical” problem occurred. So, if you are taking their flight, make sure you schedule your time at least 2 hours earlier.

2) Black face from the stewardess – The stewardess forever in sour face especially during the flight if you do request something. They are more good job in chatting among each others. Some of them not even bother offer help to passenger for their luggage, old folks or kids. Of course, there are still some nice and helpful there but it is like 1 out of 10 among them.

3) Rude in call center customer service – You will be expecting very unfriendly answer if you ever need to call to the customer service such as: “Why? Who said? Cannot etc etc..” The impression is that your call are not welcoming, you better don’t call or ended your call as soon as possible ….From my experience, even TM net customer service or Pos office staff can speak more politely then Air Asia staff. Imagine what type of impression will post to a foreign traveler if they given this type of treatment? It definitely made up bad impression to them in our education level and personality as we Malaysian don’t even know what is proper “manners”.

4) Forever “ Our customer service still busy, we will attend to you shortly” – Guess I were lucky enough to hold the line only for 10mins to get someone to attend me compare with one of my friend who never have the luck. Short of staff or heavy flow of promotion request should not be the good excuses if the company really serious in their business.

By the end of the day, of course I can’t expect much from them as the cost of airfare are cheaper than other airline but quality of service is important as well in a service industry, be professional…of course, only if the company able to see in long term view and serious in their company performance …

陈小春《犯贱》

2007-09-27T14:49:00.000+08:00

Old song, interesting lyric ! One of those songs found from last nite pasar malam Mp3 shopping. Auntie here not really knew latest songs :)

我这样强悍我这样硬朗我对着你那轻佻怎么不懂反抗
我这样强壮却这样陪葬爱你就似个信仰再痛也会向往

* 我将毕生威武放低做块阶砖给你垫底未算低未算低
若你想我吠我将毕生机智放低做个阶梯给你上位
话到底辩驳完全无谓

# 别笑我　我犯贱被嫌弃也像蜜甜别劝我我自愿
下来这条贼船别理我我犯贱被磨折也是自然
别救我我自愿 * #

并无怨言

你那样无理却最具人气我丧尽理智爱你
都只得到跟尾你接近完美我接近麻痹
我要用最痛那里领教你那真理　
Repeat *

@ 未曾惹人爱怜

对！我犯贱被流放也像乐园别劝我
我自愿未能半场弃权别理我我犯贱若离去戏就做完　
别救我我自愿并无怨言 @

Repeat # @＃＠

我看你也极面善像镜子放面前

2007-09-27T08:51:00.000+08:00

A New Life Borned!

Welcome to Chin's family 2nd baby prince! MY brother's 1st baby finally borned on last sunday nite. 3 weeks earlier than expected date, seems can't wait to join this year moon cake festive with his daddy and mummy!

So cute of him! Cheer up by this little fello from boring days! I am sure he will bring our family thousand of joy soonest.

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Went to Tmn Conaught's Pasar Malam again after months last nite. Grabs thousand CDs and MP3 for my car...running out of songs. I think sooner I can became a 2nd hand pirate CD & MP3 seller also.

Went to ears pierced also, 2nd time doing it since kid time..arkkkk!!So painful. A person like me can't take pain this is really a big deal! But, beeing envy on those fancy shinny ear rings for sometimes...so, got to pay for the price!! Looking forward one week later it got recover and can have all those nice ear rings on me.

Hmh...coming more than 2 years didn't have ear ring on me..since the day I went to Scotland, found surprise that ladies at Aberdeen do not really have ear rings or fancy fancy stuff like girls over here.

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Received an email for the tubelink about the UPM student and UPM staff arguement. Gotto say those student are really have guts infront the car of the UPM officers. Blocking they way out with no afraid that the car will really knock them down if the officer got mad with them!

Impress on them and never feel that they are wrong in requesting acknowledgement for the laptop confiscate. By the end of the day, young people really have better guts..heh heh!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ulcf7F8qzV4

You're a Song Written By Hands Of God

2007-09-25T12:32:00.000+08:00

Underneath your clothes - Shakira - Laundry Service

You're a song written by the hands of god
Don't get me wrong 'cause this might sound to you a bit odd
But you own the place where all my thoughts go hiding
And right under your clothes is where i find them

Underneath your clothes
There's an endless story
There's the man i choose
There's my territory
And all the things i deserve
For being such a good girl

Honey

**Because of you i forgot the smart ways to lie
Because of you i'm running out of reasons to cry
When the friends are gone
When the party's over
We will still belong to each other

BE STRONG HONEY......

2007-09-21T14:36:00.000+08:00

Cheers Friday! A joke to cheer up coming weekend!!

A man escapes from prison where he has been for 15 years. He breaks
into a house to look for money and guns and finds a young couple in bed.

He orders the guy out of bed and ties him to a chair. While tying the
girl to the bed he gets on top of her, kisses her neck. Then gets up
and goes into the bathroom.

While he's in there, the husband tells his wife, 'Listen, this guy's
an escaped convict! Look at his clothes! He probably spent lots of time
in jail and hasn't seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck.
If he wants sex, don't resist. Don't complain. Do whatever he tells you.

Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is probably
very dangerous. If he gets angry, he'll kill us. Be strong. Honey, I
love you.'

To which the wife responds, 'He wasn't kissing my neck. He was
whispering in my ear. He told me he was gay. He thought you were cute
and asked if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom.

Be strong honey,

I love you too !!

Malaysia Today - 14/09: Syed Hamid Albar Fumbles and Bungles

2007-09-19T13:19:00.000+08:00

For those who didn't really can hear properly what's our minister mumbled about in BBC interview, here from Malaysia today.

by Old Sea Dog

Foreign Minister Syed Hamid Albar was grilled last night, Thursday, September 13, 2007, on BBC's HardTalk over many issues in Malaysia. To Malaysians listening to Syed Hamid's 'Malay' English, it was obvious that Syed Hamid fumbled and bungled his way through the half-hour session.

But to non-Malaysian viewers, Syed Hamid was totally incoherent - his 'Malay' English had no grammar or properly constructed sentences. Hamid's incapacity to be coherent in the English language was underlined by his frequent mentioning of 'we have to do things our way'. 'Our way' was plenty obvious to everyone including foreign investors who Syed Hamid said he did not really care about. According to him, if one fund manager pulled out of Malaysia, ten more were still around. Well said Dato. You are such a conquering hero.

As to the question of racial inequality in higher education, Syed Hamid should have just said that non-Malay university graduates outnumber Malays by a factor of say 4 to 1 (these numbers are not accurate) at the private universities whereas Malay graduates at Government universities outnumber non-Malays by a factor of about 90 to 1. However, since there are only 20 Government universities and over 1500 private universities and colleges, the total number of non Malay university graduates each year is still more than the number of Malay graduates. Instead, he mumbled and fumbled something which I cannot really recall.

But this is Malaysia. The Minister gallantly walks into a major media interview without being properly prepared for the questions - knowing that he will still secure the two-thirds majority at the next general elections. This is also Malaysia where the Minister of Foreign Affairs answers questions about education and religion. There was not even one question put to him about Foreign Affairs. Surely Hamid must have been briefed about the angle of the interview yet he went in fully unprepared.

When it came to religion the Minister lied through his teeth. Before he lied he did mention that Islam was like a 'tribe'. He said that in this tribe there were tribal customs to be observed. One could not just get up and leave the tribe without observing the tribal laws. That was why Revathi was jailed for six months. It's all just a tribal custom.

But isn't it so, Dato, that after human beings got out of tribal behaviour we started calling ourselves 'civilised'? In fact, wasn't it one of the major successes of Islam that the Arab desert tribes stopped being the 'kabilah-kabilah badawi jahiliyah' or 'jahiliyah bedouin' tribes and started calling themselves Muslims instead?

Then the Minister lied. He said that nothing is stopping Lina Joy from changing her religion. She can change her religion anytime she wants to. But she cannot change her name on her identity card. According to Syed Hamid, every Malaysian 'is born with an identity card'. I thought ICs are issued when you become 12 years old. This is a purely nonsensical, fictitious and lying statement.

Chinese and Indians can change their names and religions anytime they want. They can move from Hinduism to Christianity to Buddhism to Sikhism to Islam anytime they want. Baljit Singh Joginder can become BJ Dave. Then BJ Dave can become Dato Sultan Chandra Muzaffar Shah or whatever. There are no tribal laws to observe when a Sikh leaves sikhism to become really sick.

All in, the overweight and paunchy looking Syed Hamid completely fumbled his way through the BBC interview. It was an embarrassment for all Malaysians. Of course those people who speak English like Syed Hamid will not know the difference. Relak aje brader. Eh what talking you, no?

Kalau tak reti nak cakap orang putih, elok jangan cakap saja Dato. Kita belum sentuh lagi pasal syarak hukum orang murtad. Bab itu belum settle lagi, ada banyak pendapat. Mufti Perlis cakap lain, Sheikh Al Azhar cakap lain, JAKIM cakap kut buntot.

Relak aje.

MBA Vs Engineer

2007-09-19T08:43:00.000+08:00

Just a laughs for the day!

An MBA and an Engineer go on a camping trip, set up their tent, and fall asleep.

Some hours later, the Engineer wakes his MBA friend.
"Look up at the sky and tell me what you see."

The MBA replies, "I see millions of stars."

"What does that tell you?" The MBA ponders for a minute.

"Astronomically speaking, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies and potentially billions of planets.

Astrologically, it tells me that Saturn is in Leo.

Time wise, it appears to be approximately a quarter past three.

Theologically, it's evident the Lord is all-powerful and we are small and insignificant.

Meteorologically, it seems we will have a beautiful day tomorrow.

Economically there are mass scales of stars in the sky.
So "Economy of Scale " would be the ideal strategy in that market.

Strategically such market would be a volume driven market

Financially it would be a low margin market.

From HR point of view we would require huge manpower

What does it tell you?"

The Engineer is silent for a moment, then speaks.

"Practically"

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"Someone has stolen our TENT"

BBC Hardtalk with our Foreign Minister

2007-09-18T09:09:00.000+08:00

The event that was supposed to be televised on Astro Channel 93 and somehow "disappeared" can be found on youtube by clicking on this link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y1ixwn3Isw

This defiantely alot of bull***** !!

Dream

2007-09-18T08:42:00.000+08:00

I had this dream last night:

In a path where at the back street of my kepong old house.I saw myself walking fast toward a way and at the same time an old grand father passing me. I was surprised that he can walk fast as me in his old age. I knew I am rushing there to get some small flowers bring back to someone.

As I reached there, saw bulk of white jasmine flower all over the floor but…there was a fierce yellow big dog barking and wish to attack me. His neck tighten with a string but still, he is trying hard to attack me.

I am very nervous but still trying hard to pick some flowers around the dog. Only managed to get one and two pieces on hand. Magically, the flower turned into rotten when it came on my hand. I felt so helpless and upset with all my efforts brought me those rotten flowers. At this moment, the old man who been standing beside me watching came out some words to me. He said: It seems that what we can’t get always make us believe that’s the best one.

Later, he held my hand walked past the dog and step in front. I saw there are many more flowers lying on the street….still white jasmine flower but there are also some big pink color flower (don’t know the name). Those are much bigger and fresher flowers. He started to grab me flowers and put on my both hands. I said: Enough, I only need 9 pieces, I wont able to take more. He look at me with smile and said: You can, you can have more and you will able to have more ….

I awake after this scene. Sound weird, right? But this was a real dream I had last night. Can’t explain. I dream every night but this is the 1st time I dream about this type of “message dream”. I think I know who is this old man…

Moon Cakes Festive Again Soon

2007-09-17T19:56:00.000+08:00

Went home last weekend. Small hill of mooncake lying on my house dinning table. From friends and relatives…Fancy boxes ended became my Dvds Box to keep all my HK drama series.

One type of the Moon cake 1st time seeing it. Teow Cheow Mooncake..A big cake with salted taste rather than the sweet one. Kinda cute and interesting taste.

Not really a moon cake lover but every year of the moon cake festive did brought me some unforgettable memories.

Another 2 weeks coming to this year moon cake festive again..25th Sep (Tues)..Can foresee myself celebrating my moon cake festive in office, it will be the last day of deadline for reporting and will be out from office for 3 days course again on the next day.

2nd Squash Games

2007-09-17T13:50:00.000+08:00

Piew! Started to see improvement already! this time reached to 1 hour but still feel to continue.Ofcourse, do take short break in between, I am not that super sport model like Yong (my colleague). He really play non stop and never short of breath...Huuhhh....so envy.

Can't wait for tomorrow games again, excited to see myself carry on longer time and improve in skill. Didn't feel tire like in the 1st games rather playing kinda well....(hahaha...Abit out of Yong's expectation).

Never mind, sure can graduate after 3 months but...I don't wish to have one side big arms after that....!

One thing to remind girls, never play squash with guys, they always tend to have more energy to "burst" out then us. One hit smash by them and straight to you...heh heh...better escape as far as possible, if you don't want to have a blush in you leg...heh heh

My little prince Jayson's photo

2007-09-14T13:36:00.001+08:00

游戏规则

2007-09-14T09:24:00.000+08:00

有一种游戏只限于某些人和某种关系。男人多情好色，喜欢穿梭于女人中，不愿满足于平凡的婚姻生活里。女人寂寞，喜欢恋爱的感觉，享受被疼爱却不愿意随便找个没感觉的男人。。女人遇见了这个不能为她停留的男人，于是开始了这个游戏。

男人和女人都需要遵守游戏的规则。游戏中，当彼此想念对方时，男人和女人就约会碰在一起。两人都需要投入自己的角色，世界停留童话世界里。男人成为了最完美的白马王子，给于女人最温柔的眼神和关心。女人成为了男人心中的完美情人，满足男人一切的欲望，甜美的脸孔，体谅的眼神和永远不会对男人有要求。这是世上最完美的关系，时间永远停留在童话梦境。

在享受温存踏出女人的家后，这个男人回到了原来的角色，一个忠诚的好丈夫，一个爱护孩子的好父亲。男人女人互不相干，甚至不联络，碰上时也只是普通的朋友。白马王子变回了现实生活中自私贪婪的男人，完美情人变回了现实生活中的第三者。

这种关系不需要忠诚，不需要责任，更不需要真爱，只要在那一杀有恋爱的感觉就够了。女人不需要在意男人是否还有别的女人，不需要在意男人今天会不会约会别的女人，因为游戏时间以外男人和女人的生活是互不相干。

没有所谓的对于错，没有所谓的公平，彼此各取所需。一天游戏结束了，没有任何的责任所言。

不是每一个人都有资格玩游戏，只有懂得投入扮演好白马王子和完美情人角色的人，懂得界限和遵守游戏规则的人才有资格玩游戏。

有些人迷恋于这种游戏，也适合这种游戏。没有所谓的堕落和道德而言，没有所谓的沉迷和清醒，更没有所谓的疯狂和自欺欺人，我想，每个人都有权力去选择自己的喜好。

1st Squash Games

2007-09-13T15:54:00.000+08:00

After 10 years didn't play squash games& badminton, surprising still manage to "tahan" for half an hour running up and down chasing the ball! Huh! like half dead initially, but once it started, I really enjoy it.

Started to feel my body pain slowly now, especially my arms....Pray hard not going to be the "mummy" when wake up tomorrow morning. Good feeling of sweating alot make fresh after lunch break to work...oh yeah, I went during lunch break to catch some exercise rather than more BKT!!

Recently can feel my body alarm "on" again, started felt my health are in trouble if I am not going to start some exercise soon....(Is my imagination??)

Just gotto keep it on after started my swimming last saturday...Really gotto keep the schedule on now on swimming + squash...might thinking about badminton later...

Not bad, Twin Tower Fitness Centre offer many type of sport court, imagine there is even an indoor football court there! Cool man..

Mini concert in Cameron Highland

2007-09-11T22:28:00.000+08:00

Cameron Highland 9-10 Sep 07

LC and me went to Cameron highland last Sunday. why Sunday? Because it is a free voucher to stay at Heritage hotel…heh heh, so two auntie kiasu lah…

Sunday afternoon doing what? Kao chai? Everybody went back to town starting work on Monday, left nobody there except hitting flies (Pak Wo Yen), you can imagine what chai will be there??…hahaha

After watching enough tv in the hotel room..(where I keep complain to LC that is no romance to stay with her in a hotel room …cheh cheh!!), come to my usual activity in every trip to Cameron ….Tom Yam Steamboat!!! Where LC forced to go with me…poor thing!

The interesting part came after the dinner! After tried our best driving around between Brinchang and Tanah Rata, where really nothing happening there on Sunday night…. Imagine the pub also empty with no one there at all??!! So, my suggestion to go to Hotel Rossa Passadena for karaoke where I roughly remember many years ago I did went there for karaoke.

We were shock after entered into the so called “pub + karaoke” hall….where there is exactly the 80s night club style (like those we used to watch from the old HK movie’s night club)with those high sofa row by row…I were really can’t stop laughing and never expect that such 80s karaoke still exist nowaday.

Same, there is no one there as well, except a big monitor screen with a karaoke tv beside. The charges are based on entrance fees RM10 per person with drink. I were kiasu enough to think must sing more songs enough to make our RM10 worth! Best enough I had my song chosen (after checking from the books and books manual song list) and passing the small paper sheet to the DJ, the DJ said there were no wireless microphone! I got to stand on the stage holding the microphone to present my song! Oh my god! This is exactly my mini concert then! Best enough when I felt lucky there were no other customer except 2-3 waiters in the pub (be my concert fans)….nightmare started….gangs and gangs people walking into the pub (too bad that’s not leng chai or leng lui!, its all malay gangs!)

I was really nervous and started to feel…die man…got to stand on the stage singing where everyone looking at me, no way to escape….sweating..

Just as soon as I started my song, ehhhhh….its not bad woh…with all the spotlight sparking toward me,actually can’t see the crowd’s face and don’t think the malay fans will know my mandarin song even if I perform it wrongly…heh heh…

Slowly, I started to enjoy it very much! Song follow by song…its actually feel great! I still remember during my secondary school time, karaoke just started to get popular, it was all in this high sofa design and we can remain in our sit to sing with wireless microphone or choose to stand on the stage.

This was a good experience as it really brought me back to the 80s my teenage time ….old songs, old stage, old sit ….Really make myself feel that back to 15 years ago my schooling time….This is 1st time LC go into this type of karaoke pub, she was really nervous initially but she does enjoy it at the end. For sure this will bring her good memories.

By the end of the day, the trip nothing special but it did serve a good break for me especially after mentally exhausted…by walking out from the busy town, tiring atmosphere and take a big fresh breath in a peaceful and cooling environment. Seeing flowers everywhere, eating my best favorite fried sweet potatoes balls in market and steamboat in cool weather, that’s already a good pamper to myself!

The Magic of Tarot

2007-09-10T21:07:00.000+08:00

This weekend finally I’ve spent sometime in learning something which I were interested long time ago : About Tarot Reading! Cool!

Every card actually interpreted lots of messages. The Magician, The Devil, The Moon, The Star, Wheel Fortune, Death…Its amazing that its did showed the accuracy and the logic of the meanings. Wow! Great man!

The rule of the Tarot reading started with question. I did some practices by using my relationship. It managed to bring out the same message with the same question by repeating the exercise again and again. Its amazing, right?

The value I found from Tarot reading is its managed to gave me some advise on directions. Though, it sound no-sense for getting advise from such non explainable way….thats why, Tarot reading should just serve as reference, it usually show choices and decision is always laying on our own hand!

In my story, I were stubborn enough to avoid and don’t wish to admit that the previous relationship has past and been holding on myself with the fantasy feelings and memories. From the tarot reading, the message interpreted from the cards I chosen actually showed it to my face that I really got to let it go. No matter how I don’t wish….To be honest, it’s pain, its really not feeling good when the fact turn up in front of me and I see it by my eyes. I have no more space to ignore or pretend not seeing it. It forced me to admit what I been pretending doesn’t know, pretending from seeing the fact….the man have walked away from me, all feelings have gone, even though he spent such a prefect time with me before!

Glad by spending few hours reading the book and managed to learn something which I really interested with. Come, come, come, my friends, call me if you willing to be my “white rat” being a started in Tarot reading!

叉烧饭，篮球与开车的幸福

2007-09-08T12:51:00.000+08:00

一个朋友转送过来的邮件，觉得蛮有意义的，值得记录下来勉励自己。。

1) 叉烧饭

以前去烧腊店吃饭的时候，无论哪一家店都点叉烧饭。。。。
在A店。。。。
"老板，一份叉烧饭"
在B店。。。。
"老板，一份叉烧饭"
在C店。。。。
"老板，。。。" "叉烧饭是吧!"

不知道为什么，我总是只吃叉烧饭，一直都是如此。。。。
但最近我变了，站在常吃的烧腊店前，我告诉自己:
"家训，你不能吃叉烧饭吃一辈子啊!
你要有所改变，有所突破啊!
人生要勇于尝试啊!"

于是，我点了。。。。
"老板，我要一份油鸡饭" -- "什么?!" (连老板都吓了一跳)

后来我发现在叉烧饭之外，也有很多很好吃的饭，像是油鸡，烤鸭，
鸡腿。。等等。如果我一直吃叉烧饭的话，是不是就不能吃到其他好吃的饭了啊!

"人生要勇于尝试啊! 不喜欢的话，下次再换回来就好了啊!"

2) 打篮球

很喜欢打篮球，虽然有时候投篮会不进。。
有时候会被盖火炉
有次打篮球还被撞碎了门牙。。
上次打球时，还不小心扭到脚。。
但等我脚好了之后，我还要再去打篮球。。
因为，。。。

"真正的喜欢是不会因为一点小挫折而放弃的!"

3) 开车

在还没学会开车之前，总觉得开车好像很幸福。。。。
"好想开车喔!"

但在学会开车后，却发现原来被载也是一种幸福。。
"开车其实是件很累人的事"

只是两种不一样的幸福罢了!

原来当我们看见别人在幸福的时候，
常常忘了自己也是在幸福之中的

"光头，我们要去哪里啊?"

People Come for A Reason

2007-09-08T12:42:00.000+08:00

Perseverence to failure

2007-09-07T14:29:00.000+08:00

Actually feel demotivated today. Because of yesterday date? Because of meeting again? No idea, just feel exhausted in life at this moment. Ofcause, life is full of hopes, I am working hard towards it. But still, I am just an ordinary human, can't be cheers every moment.

Went to Tian Hou Temple last nite. Some encouraging message from praying :

Perserverence - Panacea to failures

"You may fail to reliaze your cherished wish at present. But don't feel rejected. Perseverence and unreleting efforts will eventually produce fruitful result. It's a matter of time before you are favoured with glorious achievements"

A good motivation message.

I am afraid of failure, I am tire of failure...perhaps, I need your support to walk it thru. Its always not the matter of how taugh to get thru it but it is more to the encouragement I need you to guide me along..Can you pray hard for me tonite? Pray for me the courage, pray for me the persistence, pray for me to be strong..

Starbuck Coffee Branch

2007-09-05T15:34:00.000+08:00

This is really a good one! Local Starbuck branch newly open in Malaysia!

Difference between A Wife and Girlfriend

2007-09-04T09:44:00.000+08:00

Good one from Johnny's blog...Joke but sound true...haha
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Wife is like a TV.
Girlfriend is like handphone.
At home watch TV. Go out bring h/p.
No money sell TV. Got money change h/p.
Sometimes enjoy TV but most of the time play with h/p.
TV free for life but....h/p,
if you don't pay, "The number you have dial is not in service" ....!

Coffee...or Cup

2007-09-03T15:34:00.000+08:00

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.

* A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor.

* Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

* Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

* When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.

* While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

* Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.

* In most cases, it is ! just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.

* What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.

* Now consider this:
- Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.

- They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live.

- Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. Enjoy your coffee!."

* The happiest people don't have the best of everything.

* They just make the best of everything."

1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.